W.I.N. Wednesday: The Most Courageous Act

“The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.”

Coco Chanel

Read that quote a couple of times. Mull it over, reflect on what it means to you. 

When I read it it caused me to pause and think about what it meant. 

To me it is a caution against getting caught up in “group think”. 

It is about having the courage to speak up and disagree at a meeting or in a conversation.. 

It is about speaking up for what is right when it is not what is popular.

It is about the willingness to say No, or vote No. 

It is about addressing topics in your writings, your training or your presentations that may be contrary to popular or long held beliefs or historic ways of doing things and may upset some people.

You need to always be willing to explain why you believe what you do. What experiences information, research, evidence and knowledge are guiding your thinking. 

It is about accepting the fact that not everyone will agree with you and some will get vicious in their opposition and attacks on you because of your courage to, “think for yourself. Aloud.”

In my presentations I share the definition of courage from Jack Colwell and Chip Huth. They define courage this way, “To act for what is right, at risk to self, when members of your social group do not agree with the act.” I believe the risk here is generally not a physical risk. It is the risk we will upset others, we will get labeled, we will get shunned, we will get talked about behind our backs, or others will lash out at us. 

You also need to be open minded and continually reading, listening, learning and challenging your own beliefs. You need to have the courage and humility to say, “I was wrong.” and to change your thoughts and beliefs based on solid research and evidence to the contrary. 

Be respectful of others who think for themselves aloud. If you think differently, then engage in a respectful dialogue to learn about the other person’s position and rationale. 

What’s Important Now? Be courageous. Think for yourself. Aloud. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Time

We all have the same amount of time in a day - 24 hours, 1,440 minutes, 86,400 seconds. The question is, “How are you using that time?"

You can spend time or you can invest time. 

You can try to find the time (and usually don’t) or you can make the time. 

You can waste time and kill time or you can put your time to good use.

The reality with time is that once it is gone you can never get it back. 

What’s Important Now? Be more intentional with your time. Use it and invest it well. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: They got lucky.

“They got lucky.” I hear that a lot from people talking about other people’s success. For some reason they want to attribute luck as the major factor for someone else’s success in business, in sports, in their careers and in life. 

Does luck play a factor? Sure. You can never take luck out of the equation. When you study those people whose success is sustained over time, luck played a very small role in their success. 

What you don’t see is all the work that went into creating their “lucky break”. You usually only see the end result of all their efforts - the success. 

When you go to see live theatre, a concert or a movie what you see is the end product of a lot of hard work. Each of the actors or musicians has committed a significant part of their life practicing their craft so they had the opportunity just to audition. Once selected for that role they then spent hundreds of hours practicing and rehearsing for that performance. The same is true for the writers and composers, the choreographers, the directors and the people who do the sound and lighting. 

When you watch a professional sporting event you are seeing the end product of thousands of hours of purposeful and dedicated practice that was required just to create the opportunity for the athletes and coaches to make that team and then the countless hours of physical and mental practice every day to hone their craft and prepare them for that game. If you are watching it on TV you are also missing all the work that went in to preparing for the broadcast by the play by play announcer, analyst, sideline reporter and production crew. You are also not seeing all the work by the production crew during the event to bring you a high quality production. 

In his book Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones James Clear says, "Until you work as hard as those you admire, don’t explain away their success as luck.”

When my mom was still alive and people used to tell her how lucky my two sons were to have successful businesses in a tough market and down economy she used to say, “You are right and the harder they work the luckier they get.”

What’s Important Now? Study those you admire and learn about their struggles, failures, processes, strategies, mindset, habits and work ethic. Then, do the work.

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Don't become small

When you make the commitment to the pursuit of personal excellence and express your willingness to do the hard work necessary and your willingness to Dare to Be Great, there will be a bunch of people there to cheer you on. There will also be a few people who will be lined up to tell you all the reasons you will not be successful in your journey. 

It is easy to assume that the people who are expressing their support for you will continue to do so during your life long journey in the pursuit of excellence and will be there to pick you up when you stumble and fall and there to celebrate with you all the successes, big and small, along the way.  

The reality is that as you rise, the group of supporters will likely begin to shrink. Some who expressed support at the start of your journey may slowly start to fade away or even turn on you. Some will even seem to take greater pleasure in your stumbles and failures than in your successes. 

When this happens accept it as part of the journey, Embrace the Suck, and keep striving for excellence. Continue to be willing to Dare to Be Great, understanding that greatness is a journey and not an end state. 

We all have our own crap and our own baggage we carry with us. Sometimes when you begin to rise higher, others will begin to feel inadequate and insecure. They will begin to compare what you have accomplished with what they have failed to accomplish. They will realize that while you are living into your potential, they are not. While you have embraced the path of hard work in the pursuit of excellence, they have chosen to embrace the easy path of mediocrity. While you have chosen to overcome challenges, obstacles and tragedy, they have chosen not to. While you have chosen the path of the victor that have chosen to embrace the role of the victim.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God.”

Marianne Williamson

While you have chosen to face your deepest fear, they are still paralyzed by it. Be cautious of shrinking so they will feel better about themselves. 

“Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.”

Marianne Williamson

There will be a small group who will be with you throughout the entire journey because their love and support is unconditional. Embrace this group.

What’s Important Now? Do not become small for people who refuse to grow.

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: The dangerous lure of social comparison

“You can’t be envious and happy at the same time. People who pay too much attention to social comparisons find themselves chronically vulnerable, threatened, and insecure.”

Sonja Lyubomirsky, The How of Happiness

This is the challenge and caution for all of us, especially at this time of year. Too often people make New Years Resolutions based on social comparisons. 

Those social comparisons can come from spending too much time on social media and making the assumption that all the smiling faces, great restaurants, exotic vacations and apparent perfect lives are the norm for the people posting. 

I spend little to no time on social media but it strikes me that people tend to post the good moments and events in their life, some of which are fleeting. It is rare that people post about their financial struggles and massive credit card debt. It is rare that people post about the struggles in their relationships at home and at work. It is rare that people post about the promotion they did not get because they had not done the work to make themselves the best candidate. It rare that people post about their mistakes and their failures. It is rare that people post about the poor performance review they got at work because they have embraced mediocrity and have just been showing up and going through the motions at work.  It is rare that people post the pictures of themselves after they put back all the weight when they went off the fad diet. 

It is easy to assume that all the people in the magazines and adds and in the movies with the perfect bodies and the perfect smiles always look that way. Most do not. Pick up a fitness magazine for men and look at the supplement adds with the before and after pictures of some of the body builder types. The reality is that the before picture is how they look most of the year and the after picture is how they look for the competitions and the add photos. 

If you are getting back into working out be cautious of comparing yourself to others at the gym. Comparing yourself to the super fit people can be discouraging because of the gap between you and them. Looking for people who are more overweight or less fit than you might allow you to try and convince yourself that you are not in that bad of shape after all, but will do nothing to get your butt in gear and do the work. 

Learn from others. Find out what they did to get to where they are at. Dig deep to figure out what systems they put in place and understand the true level of commitment they displayed over the long haul to get to where they are at. 

Study others, learn from others, but stop comparing yourself to them and stop trying to be them. Put what you learn through the filter to best determine what is of value to you and what is not. Take action on what you are learning and keep learning.

What’s Important Now? Focus on you. Be honest with where you are at and make the commitment to show up every day, do the work, and strive to continually be the best version of yourself that you can. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: only you can move the needle.

Recently I listened to a podcast interview with Mike Erwin, co-author of the book Leader Yourself First, which I was reading at the time. The book is about the power of solitude for leaders to help them in four key areas - clarity, creativity, emotional balance and moral courage. During the interview one of the things Erwin said was, “Others can challenge you; only you can move the needle.” 

What I take away from that is that you need to do the work. You need to do the hard work to lead yourself first, so you can best lead others. You need to do the introspection and the reflection. You need to do the reading, ask the questions and find the ways to connect the dots. 

In an interview with Michael Gervais on his Finding Mastery podcast Annabel Anderson, 5 time World Champion in the sport of stand up paddling, and an amazing story of dedication, commitment to excellence, resilience and someone who has developed an uncanny ability to Embrace the Suck and look for the good said, “You need to fall in love with the boring. You’ve got to love doing the work because the highs are so momentary and they can be so few and far between that unless you love the boring and the mundane on a daily basis you better go find something else that you do like.”

In the book Atomic Habits author James Clear suggests that you strive to get just 1% better every day and shows how the compounded benefits of this small daily improvements are significant over time. He also says, “Forget about goals, focus on systems instead.” He goes on to explain that goals are about the results you want to achieve and systems are about the processes that lead to those results. Without solid systems and processes, and a willingness to do the work you will likely fall short of your goal.

In his book Chasing Excellence Ben Bergeron, a hugely successful Crossfit coach who has helped some of the top Crossfit athletes in the world continually improve their performance, stresses the importance of focusing on effort and process and the commitment to constantly delivering the best that you are capable of. 

What is the point of all this? Well, it is January 2, 2019. A time when many people are once again starting on their journey to achieve their New Years Resolutions. The research suggests most will give up on those resolutions before the end of the month. Why? I believe it is because they are focused on the goal, not the process. They have failed to put the systems in place to help them be successful in redesigning their life. Their Why is vague, uninspiring and likely based on someone else’s agenda. And, they have not fallen in love with the boring, the mundane, the work day in and day out that will allow them to be successful. 

Lasting change takes time, it takes work, it takes commitment. Lasting change requires a system and a dedication to effort and process. It also requires you to have a powerful, personal Why. Be very clear on why it is important to you (not why it is important to anyone else) to do the work, embrace the new lifestyle and create new, more desirable habits. If you have a clear, personal and powerful Why, then in the down moments, the times you feel like quitting, your Why will help get you through. 

When I reflect on my life, it becomes clear to me that the things I have stuck with and been successful at I had a strong personal Why, I developed a system (some I am still tweaking and improving), I knew it was going to take a lot of work over a long time and so I embraced the effort and the process. The things I did not stick with, the things I failed to follow through on, and there have been a lot of them over the years, were missing those critical elements. 

What’s Important Now? Start with your Why. Be clear on your identity, who you want to become. Develop a system. Embrace effort and process. Make a commitment to small incremental improvements every day. Celebrate the small wins on the long journey. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: You Must Be Very Proud

When I talk to people I have not seen in a while they usually ask how my two sons Jesse and Cody are doing. After I tell them about Jesse’s two Vine Arts boutique wine stores, his cocktail bar Proof, his restaurant Donna Mac and his online barware and glassware business 5th and Vermouth and Cody’s three restaurants, Native Tongues, Two Penny and Calcutta Cricket Club, they usually comment, “Wow. That is a tough business to be in these days.”, and ask how the businesses are doing. When I tell them about the success, the awards and the accolades they usually reply, “You must be very proud.”

I am proud. I am happy that the businesses are all successful but, that is not what makes me proud. 

I am proud of the fact they are willing to step up and pursue their dreams. I am proud that they were willing to take the risks that come with owning your own business. I am proud of all the hard work they continue to put in to build the businesses. I am proud that they understand the importance of continuing to innovate and improve to provide a better experience for their customers. I am proud of the maturity they have shown over the years. I am proud of the fact they are willing to have courageous conversations and make the tough leadership decisions. I am proud of how they treat their staff. I am proud that while they are always working to improve their current businesses they are also asking, “What’s the next challenge.” I am proud that they continue to make time for their significant others, friends and family. I am proud of their growth mindsets. I am proud of their humility over the years as they asked questions and sought help, advice and guidance from mentors and people who have experience and knowledge they did not. I am proud of their commitment to learn, grow and push themselves to continually expand their comfort zones. I am proud of the fact they continue to strive for excellence understanding that in the striving sometimes you will fail and when you do fail it is an opportunity to learn and to grow. 

I am excited about their success. I am proud of the effort that creates the opportunity for their success. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Pay Attention Please - Part 2

Last week’s post addressed a number of areas where I asked you to please pay attention during your holiday air travels. After that post a friend who is a commercial airline pilot sent me the following message with four important points I missed in the original post:

Amen, Brian! And thank you, thank you, thank you for this PSA!

I might add:

1. Pay attention to the flow of traffic in the airport. Don't be "that guy" who rapidly stops or changes direction in the middle of the flow, and balls everything up;

2. Either walk, or check your texts, but please don't do both and jam up the flow of traffic with your slow, meandering walk that looks like a drunk driver swerving across all lanes;

3. And please, pay attention to the people around you! Especially when you're all bunched up in the security queue, or outside on the curb in the loading zone--the "non-sterile" side of the airport is the softest target.

4. In light of me kicking three drunks off the airplane last night:  Pay attention to the amount of drinking your fellow passengers are doing in the bar before flight. You don't want to be trapped in a metal tube with an angry drunk! Say something to airline personnel if you have a concern that someone might be drunk. 

As I reflected on these very important additions I came up with a few more items to add to the Pay Attention list:

• Pay attention to the inflight instructions from the pilot. They are responsible for the aircraft and everyone on board. If they ask you to stay in your seat with your seatbelt fastened, plan pay attention. That means they are expecting turbulence and want you, and everyone else on the plane to be safe. If they ask the flight attendants to take their seats mid flight it means they are expecting severe turbulence.

• Pay attention to the directions from the flight attendants. They are there for your safety and the safety of everyone on board. When they ask you to put your phone and other devices into airplane mode, put up your tray table, stow your carryon bags and fasten your seatbelt there is a reason so please pay attention. And no, you are not special and exempt from the rules. 

• Pay attention to your kids, where they are and what they are doing. I know you think they are angels, they are really cute and you love them dearly. Other travellers however, may not share your sentiments when they trip over your kids or have to swerve around your kids as they are trying to get to their gate to catch a flight.

• Pay attention when you book your flights to the amount of time between connecting flights. 30 minutes is rarely enough time to deplane and get to your next gate before boarding closes (which is 10 minutes before departure). It requires that your flight is on time, or early, and that your next gate is directly beside the gate you arrive at. There are too many things that can cause flight delays, especially in the winter months. If you are flying through the hub airports for the airlines, which you almost always are, they are large, major airports and your arrival and departure gates will inevitably be in separate terminals and at the opposite ends of the airport.

• Pay attention to the weight restrictions for carryon bags. The fact that you cannot lift the bag to put it in an overhead bin is a clue it is too heavy and should have been checked.

• Pay attention to which boarding group you are in.

• Pay attention to announcements at the gate where the gate agents offer to check your carryon bags through to your final destination at no charge (especially if you are in one of the last groups to board the plane). I know it adds to the cost of the flight to pay to check bags, unless you are flying Southwest, and that is why you chose to carry on everything you are taking with you. When they check your bag(s) for free at the gate it saves you the hassle of trying to find overhead bin space, which usually does not exist for the last one or two groups to board the plan. It also saves you the hassle of hauling that bag, or bags, on multiple fights and through airports. It may add a few minutes at the end of your trip while you wait for your bag, but it might save you a lot of hassle and headaches during the trip.

• If you join the Nexus, Trusted Traveller or TSA Pre-Approved program pay attention to the information on what you can leave on your person and what you can leave in your bag. It defeats the purpose if you are holding up the line taking off your light jacket, belt and shoes and taking your computer and other items out of your bag when you do not have to. Pay attention to any nuances at the airport security as some smaller airports have slightly different systems.

• Pay attention to the information that is widely available as to what you can take in your carryon bag and what you cannot. Pay attention to the size of liquids you can take and how they need to be packaged and displayed. Pay attention to what you have to take out of your carryon bag at security and put in a bin.

• Pay attention to what is in your carryon bag. If it has been a while since you travelled or other people have used that back pack, or you used it to go hiking or camping make sure you throughly search the bag. That folding knife from your last hike, that ammunition from your trip to the range or that bear spray from your camping trip may get you in a lot of trouble at security.

• Pay attention to the list of food and items you cannot take through Customs.

• Pay attention to what you need to declare to Customs going to another country or coming back home from your trip. Follow the rules and do no lie to the Customs officers. They are good people doing a very difficult job. The rules are in place for a reason. 

I know this seems like a lot of things to pay attention to. It is. Air travel has gotten significantly more complicated over the years. Paying attention will help take some of the stress, hassle and headaches out of the trip. It will also help to help prevent avoidable delays and enhance the chances of you getting to your destination on time and in a frame of mind that will allow you to enjoy the purpose of your travel.

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Pay Attention. Please.

This is a busy time of year for air travel. If you are traveling on a commercial airline to visit family or to head to a warm destination to get away from the cold and snow here are some things you need to pay attention to.

Whether you fly once in your life, once a year or once a week pay attention to the safety briefing. Research shows that people who stop talking with the person beside them, put down their book, stop watching the movie on their iPad and actually pay attention to the safety briefing every time they fly perform better in the case of an emergency.

Pay attention to where the emergency exits are and mentally rehearse how many seats you need to touch going forward and backward to get to the closest emergency exit. In a crash you may find the cabin of the plane in complete darkness and if you have not counted rows you will have no idea where the closest exits are. On a flight this year a flight attendant saw me counting rows and she came over after the safety briefing and shared a story a passenger on a flight two weeks prior had told her.  He had been on a plane that crashed. He said, “I never counted seats and the plane was in complete darkness following the crash. I had no idea where the closest exit was felt panic setting in. I did manage to get off safely and that is the last time I will ever get on a plane without counting seats.”

Pay attention to the demonstration explaining that in the event of a sudden change of cabin pressure oxygen masks will drop down from the ceiling compartments above you. After placing the mask on and tightening by pulling on the straps, you need to tug on the tubing to start the flow of oxygen. Jackie Pflug shared the story of being on a plane that was hijacked. During the gunfight between the Egyptian Air Marshals and the hijackers, which the Air Marshals lost, the skin of the aircraft was punctured by a number of bullets. The plane began to plummet and lose cabin pressure. The oxygen masks dropped down and Jackie puts hers on. She said she was suffocating as she was not getting any oxygen. The man beside her reached up and pulled on her tubing to start the flow of oxygen. Jackie said prior to that flight she never paid attention to the safety briefings.

Pay attention to the explanation that in the event of a water landing regarding whether there are inflatable life jackets on board or whether you need to use the seat cushion as a personal flotation device. If there are life jackets make sure you know where yours is located and mentally rehearse accessing it (some are under your seat, some are under the centre console). For all the skeptics who believe a water landing is a crash where everyone is going to die, then read the story of US Airways Flight 1549 on January 15, 2009. Sully Sullenberger and Jeff Skiles executed a controlled water landing on the Hudson River and everyone got off that plane alive.

Pay attention to the seatbelt demonstration, especially the part about how to undo the seatbelt. I know, you fasten and undo your seatbelt in your car every day. You know how to undo a seatbelt. Yes you do. But, the seatbelt on a plane has a lever, not a button to undo it. It is easy to undo, when you know how, when there is not the stress of an emergency. What about when your life, or the lives of others depends on it? I was on a flight recently where a young woman who looked to be late 20’s or early 30’s was travelling with a friend. It was her first ever flight. During the safety briefing the two of them were busy talking and not paying attention. About 30 minutes into the flight she decided she wanted to take her jacket off. She couldn’t figure out how to undo the seatbelt. After about 5 minutes of trying she gave up and managed to shrug her way out of her jacket with the seatbelt still done up. About 5 minutes before the plane landed she finally asked her friend how to undo the seatbelt. Funny story, unless there had been an emergency, in which case she may have cost herself and other passengers their lives.

Pay attention to your backpack and bags as you go down the aisle to your seat. People should not have to protect their faces from your bags as you struggle to get down the aisle.

Pay attention to your seat number before you get on the plane and when you get into your seat. Know where you are sitting and make sure to sit in your assigned seat.

Pay attention to the information the gate agent announces regarding regular size roller boards not fitting in the overhead bins. Getting a green tag and gate checking your bag will prevent a lot of hassles on the plane when you bag does not fit into the overhead bins.

Pay attention to the restrictions on how many items you can take onto a plane. Two means two. Not two plus a suit bag, and a big shopping bag, and, well you get the point.

Pay attention to the advice to get to the airport At Least two hours before your flight.

Pay attention to the monitors throughout the airport in case your gate changes.

Pay attention to the announcements in the boarding area in case your gate changes. 

What’s Important Now? Pay Attention. Please.

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: There is no going back.

“You could leave life right now, let that determine what you do and say and think.”

Marcus Aurelius, Meditations

The fact you could leave life right now is the reality for all of us. Our life could end for a variety of reasons at any time. This is not something most people think about or reflect on until they get on in years, are fighting a terminal illness or have a near death experience.

Reflect on how you lived the last week or even just the last 24 hours. Think about how you spent your time and how you treated people. Would you be content if you knew you were going to die very soon, or would you have regrets and wish you could roll back the clock?

None of us can roll back the clock. Time is not something you can get back. Once you spend time, you cannot get a refund. Words are not something you can take back. The hurt caused by how you treated someone is not something you can take back.

You can apologize. You can tell someone how sorry you are for what you did or said. You can seek to do better in the future. But, you cannot go back in time and get a do over.

What’s Important Now? Let Marcus Aurelius’ philosophy guide you in your thoughts, actions and deeds.

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Measuring Your Self Worth

I am currently reading Brene Brown’s newest book Dare to Lead. There is a lot of great content in the book and if you are in a formal leadership position in your organization, then I highly recommend you read it. 

I have highlighted a lot of material in the book (I read all my books on my iPad and highlight key statements, quotes and paragraphs) including the line, ”we still struggle as a society around pegging our self-worth to our net worth.” 

I believe this is something many of us struggle with. The success stories in books and magazines are often about the people who have made millions and influenced millions. They are the stories of the entrepreneur who started their first company from scratch and sold it for 100 million dollars and then did the same with three more companies. They are about the speakers who regularly speak to crowds of 10,000 people and get paid $50,000.00 to $300,000.00 for a 60 minute presentation. The pictures are of the people with the perfect smiles, the perfect hair, the perfect bodies and their perfect families. 

We read the books and the stories and the e-mails advertising how you too can become a millionaire overnight by following just a few simple steps. Then we look at our lives and think, “If that is what success looks like then I am an underachiever and a failure.” 

The constant, often subliminal, message is that your self worth is directly linked to you net worth. The problem with judging your self worth by your net worth is that it is a flawed standard. The majority of people in the world who are making a true difference and living a life of significance will never be on the cover of Success magazine. They will never have books written about them. They will never speak to stadiums packed with raving fans. They will never be millionaires or billionaires. 

They get up every day, go out in the world, do their jobs to the best of their abilities and hope they can make a difference in the life of one person. They are teachers, first responders, health care professionals, volunteers, and researchers. They serve in the military. They build roads, pick up the garbage every week, work in restaurants, hotels and in retail stores. They are trainers, speakers, coaches, consultants, attorneys, landscapers, lifeguards, students, entrepreneurs, executives, pastors, artists and writers. They are sons and daughters, sisters and brothers, husbands, wives and partners and mothers and fathers. 

Every day they show up, and do important, often unglamorous work. They lead, model, influence, impact and serve. If you measure their self worth by they net worth, most would have little self worth. If you measure their self worth by their service, their hard work, who they lifted up and made better and what they have given back and paid forward, they have massive self worth. 

"At the end of the day it’s not about what you have or even what you’ve accomplished… It’s about who you’ve lifted up, who you’ve made better, it’s about what you’ve given back."

Denzel Washington

What’s Important Now? Be careful of how you measure your self worth. You are likely worth more than you can ever imagine. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: If you could send a message.

If you could send a message to the teenage version of yourself what would you tell them?

Would you tell yourself to coast through life and do the bare minimum to get by? Or, would you tell yourself to give full effort in your studies, your play and your work?

Would you tell yourself to be action averse to avoid making mistakes? Or, would you tell yourself that making mistakes is part of being human and inevitable of the pursuit of excellence and when you do make mistakes to stand up and own up then ask the questions, “What did I learn from that, and what am I going to do to ensure I do not make that mistake again?”

Would you tell yourself to embrace mediocrity and continually settle for “good enough”? Or, would you tell yourself to always strive for excellence, understanding that in the striving sometimes you are are going to fail and when you fail it is an opportunity to learn and to grow?

Would you tell yourself that relationships are unimportant in life so don’t spend time working on them? Or, would you tell yourself about the importance of building and valuing relationships?

Would you tell yourself to ignore all the hype about eating right and exercise because it is just a fad? Or, would you tell yourself to make your health (physical, mental and emotional) a priority throughout your life?

Would you tell yourself to read the bare minimum number of books you need to to get through school and then don’t worry about reading any more? Or, would you encourage yourself to be continually reading, listening, learning and growing?

Would you tell yourself to embrace conformity and go along to get along? Or, would you teach yourself the importance of having the courage to do what is right at all times, even when it is not what is popular, easy or expedient?

Would you tell yourself that leadership is about rank, position and title? Or, would you teach yourself that leadership is about influence, action and interaction and in every position you will be in a position to lead regardless of your position and title so always choose to be a leader?

What’s Important Now? Whatever you would would give the teenage version of yourself; give the current version of yourself the same advice, then get to work.

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Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: It's good for the ego.

“Whatever you do in life, surround yourself with smart people who’ll argue with you.” 

John Wooden

It is good for the ego to surround yourself with people who will tell you how great you are.

It is good for the ego to be the smartest person in the room, or at least think you are.

It is good for the ego to only focus on the great evaluations from your presentations.

It is good for the ego to only do things you are already good at.

It is good for the ego to hang out with people who all think like you and tell you how smart you are.

It is good for the ego, and detrimental to your growth and development.

In order to grow you have to follow John Wooden's advice and surround yourself with smart people who will argue with you.

In order to grow you need people who will challenge the way you think and what you believe to be true.

In order to grow you have to pay attention to the poor evaluations and reflect on how you missed the mark for that person and what you can do differently to improve in the future.

In order to grow you need to continually strive to improve, understanding that in striving sometimes you will fail. When you do fail it is an opportunity to learn, improve and grow.

What’s Important Now? Focus on what’s good for your growth and development, instead of what is good for the ego.

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Effort and Process

You don’t control outcomes. You do have control over effort and process. When you put in the effort and focus on the process you give yourself the greatest chance of having a desirable outcome. 

This is a lesson I have learned from years of work, failure, learning, asking, reading and listening. It is one of the areas I focused on with all the athletes I have worked with over the years as a mental preparation coach. It is what I teach law enforcement professionals, trainers and leaders.

Too often we get over focused on the outcome, which is most often outside our control. I have read a lot of books, talked to people from a variety of fields and listened to interviews with some of the top coaches in the world. The theme that comes up repeatedly is, “Focus on effort and process, not outcomes.”

The effort and process must be purposeful and deliberate. The effort and process needs to be focused on continual improvement. 

It does not mean that we completely ignore the outcome. Regardless of the outcome we need to conduct an After Action Review to determine what went well, what we learned from the experience, what do we need to do to adjust the effort going forward, are there areas of the process that need to be amended, enhanced, eliminated or improved. 

Last night I started reading the book Chasing Excellence: A Story about Building the World’s Fittest Athletes by Ben Bergeron. Bergeron has coached Champions in the Crossfit Games in both the men’s and women’s divisions. There some very good documentaries on the Crossfit Games and Crossfit athletes on Netflix. When you watch them you realize why they call the winners of the Crossfit Games “The Fittest Man and Woman on Earth”. 

In the introduction for the Chasing Excellence Katrin Davidsdotter talks about effort and process:

“Ben never expects me, or any other athlete, to do more than we are capable of, but he always expects us to give everything we have. That’s what got me hooked in the beginning. It was the challenge to constantly deliver the best I was capable of, every single time.”

“The process is something that Ben puts a lot of emphasis on, and he pays more attention to the effort I put in than how much I lifted or how fast I went. It was during the first year of training with him that I fell in love with the process.”

“Though I moved halfway around the world with the goal of making it back to the Crossfit Games, Ben and I never actually talked about the Games. We didn’t talk about about qualifying, we didn’t talk about finishing in the top ten, and we certainly didn’t talk about about winning. What we did talk about was giving full effort in every single moment of every single day, and becoming the best we possibly could be.”

Katrin started working with Ben after she failed to qualify for the 2014 Crossfit Games. She went on to win the 2015 and 2016 Crossfit Games. 

When you hear players who played for the famous UCLA basketball coach John Wooden they say he never talked about winning. He was all about effort and process. As a result they won 10 National Championships in 12 years. 

Bob Bowman, who was Michael Phelps coach from the early years through all the Olympics games and medals, talks about their relentless focus on effort and process. Phelps is the most decorated Olympian in the history of the Olympic Games. 

Nick Saban is currently the head football coach at Alabama. He has lead teams to 6 national championships and is considered by many to be the best college football coach in the history of US college football. He has a relentless focus on effort and process. 

What’s Important Now? Focus on what you control. Focus on effort and process. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: At the end of the day

"At the end of the day it’s not about what you have or even what you’ve accomplished… It’s about who you’ve lifted up, who you’ve made better, it’s about what you’ve given back."

Denzel Washington

At the end of the day it is easy to focus on all the items you checked off on your “To Do” list. It is easy to focus on the number of sales, how much you made in tips, the accolades you received, the great reviews on your presentation, the number of likes on your blog post, the number of friends you have on Facebook, or the number of connections you have on LinkedIn. 

Those are nice, but they are all about you. 

What did you do to be of service to others? What did you do to positively impact the life of someone else? Who did you mentor today? Who did you invest your time and energy in today? What did you do to be of service to others today? 

On September 30 my oldest son Jesse ran the fourth Carnival Cocktails for Cancer event. The one night event features 25 bars and restaurants who create carnival themed food and cocktails. My youngest son Cody was one of the restauranteurs who participated with all three of his restaurants taking part in the event. They also have raffles and silent auction items, all of which are donated by individuals and companies who want to help make a difference.

The restaurants and bars who are part of this event donate their time, energy and supplies. They take the preparation, the food and drinks seriously. They don’t take themselves too seriously. They dress up for the event and have a fun night in service to a great cause. They do not make any money and may never see any boost to their business as a result of participating. They all do it because they want to be of service and support a great cause. They do it to help advance cancer research. They do it to be of service to people they will never meet. 

In the four years the event has given approximately $250,000.00 to cancer research.

“Don’t judge each day by the harvest that you reap, but by the seeds that you plant”

Robert Louis Stevenson

Accomplishments, accolades, sales, likes, and retweets are all good. Just be cautious of becoming so focused on the harvest that you reap (what’s in it for me) that you forget about planting seeds (what are you doing for others). 

What’s Important Now? Plant seeds. Nourish those seeds. Be of service. Help others to grow. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Great does not mean famous

"I never wanted to be famous. I only wanted to be great."

Ray Charles

If you are willing to Dare to Be Great, to engage in the pursuit of excellence and strive to continually be the best version of yourself while in service to others, you may end up becoming rich and famous. 

If you are willing to Dare to Be Great, to engage in the pursuit of excellence and strive to continually be the best version of yourself while in service to others, you may end up becoming famous, but not rich.

If you are willing to Dare to Be Great, to engage in the pursuit of excellence and strive to continually be the best version of yourself while in service to others, you may end up becoming rich, but not famous.

If you are willing to Dare to Be Great, to engage in the pursuit of excellence and strive to continually be the best version of yourself while in service to others, you may end up becoming neither rich or famous. 

If you are willing to Dare to Be Great, to engage in the pursuit of excellence and strive to be the best version of yourself while in service to others, you will develop an inner peace and contentment that comes from knowing you did your best, you showed up, you did the work, you helped to serve, grow and develop others and you made a difference in the lives of others. That might even be better than being rich and famous. Being great does not mean you will become rich and famous. It is still worth striving for. 

“Worry not who knows of you. Seek to be worth knowing”

Confucius 

What’s Important Now? Dare to Be Great. Focus on growing, learning, striving and serving.

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: The beautiful thing about learning.

"The beautiful thing about learning is nobody can take it away from you."

B.B. King

Learning is something you control. A teacher, trainer or coach can help you to learn, they can create great learning environments, they can inspire you to want to learn, but they cannot make you learn.  Once you make the choice to learn however, it opens up tremendous opportunities for you to continue to learn and grow. Learning opens the door to a whole new world of possibilities. 

Learning is not restricted to the classroom. In fact, the majority of learning takes place outside of the formal educational settings. It comes from reading, listening, doing, reflecting, engaging, discussing, debating, doing, questioning, listening, connecting, imagining, doing, succeeding, failing, reflecting, repeating. 

Learning is fluid. The more you learn, the more you realize how little you know and how much you still get to learn. Learning can help to shape beliefs and change beliefs. 

As legendary Blues artist B.B. King pointed outs, once you learn something nobody can take it away from you. That does not mean that you should hold on tightly to it. The other beautiful about learning is that you can choose to give it away, to share it.  

The real power from learning comes from sharing what you are learning, how it connects to what you already knew, and how it helps to solve problems (yours and others).  Sharing what you are learning will initiate conversations, discussions, dialogues and debates. These will result in deeper learning, begin to connect the dots, reveal other topics you can choose to learn about and other sources of learning you may not have been familiar with. 

What’s Important Now? Learning is a choice. Choose to learn. Choose to share what you are learning and choose to inquire of others what they are learning.  

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Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: The Gap

A few weeks ago I was listening to an episode of the Smart People Podcast where the host was interviewing Bob Rosen, the author of the leadership books Grounded and Conscious and CEO of the company Healthy Companies. During the interview Rosen shared a lot of good information and inspired me to start reading Grounded, which I had downloaded to my Kindle library some time ago. I was also inspired to order Conscious. 

One of the things he said that really caught my attentions was, “You need to get comfortable living in the gap. The gap between where we are and where we want to be; between who we are and who we are working to become.”

It struck me that ‘the gap’ is what causes some people to embrace mediocrity, fail to pursue excellence and be unwilling to dare to be great. The gap represents the unknown and it scares the crap out of us at times. Rather than fearing the gap, the unknown next phase of the journey, we need to embrace it and learn to get comfortable in the gap. 

It takes work, commitment and energy to move through that gap. It takes humility to admit what you don’t know, what you need to learn and to enter into the gap of skills and knowledge. It also requires the understanding that if you are on the path to excellence you will only bridge the gap briefly before you enter the next gap on the journey to where you want to be and who you want to become. The journey to the next ridge line requires that you continually enter, and spend time in the gap. 

What’s Important Now? Learn to be comfortable in the gap knowing you will be better for the experience every time you come up and out the other side. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: The power of 't.

‘t

It’s just an apostrophe followed by the letter t. Big deal. 

The question: How much power can that have?

The answer: The power of to determine success or failure. 

Take the word Can and add that apostrophe and the letter t. It suddenly changes a positive, empowering word to a negative, inhibiting word.

How many times in your life have you set a goal for yourself (to lose weight, get a promotion, get a raise, start your own business, double the revenue for your own business, etc) only to have people tell you all the reasons you can’taccomplish that goal? 

How did that make you feel? Did it suck the life out of you and start you into a spiral of negative self-talk where you came up with your own list of reasons why you can’tachieve that goal or dream or can’tpossibly be successful?

If you said hell no, it motivated me to prove them wrong, then good for you. If you reflect back what you likely did was delete the apostrophe and the letter t, and come up with a litany of reasons in your own mind why you CAN.  

When my two sons launched their businesses the skeptics, cynics and naysayers all came out of the woodwork with the reasons they couldn’t be successful: down economy, too young, food and wine industries are too hard to make it a go, etc. Jesse and Cody rejected those excuses, deleted the apostrophe and the letter t and embraced all the reasons they could be successful. And they were successful.

As they launched their next businesses they faced the same skeptics and cynics and responded in the same manner, again being successful. 

What’s Important Now? Hit the delete key twice, or get out the eraser or your pen and scratch out the apostrophe t. Now focus on what you cando. 

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Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: As a parent.

As a parent:

If you make your child wear a helmet when they go out to ride their bike, and you should, then you need to wear a helmet when you ride your bike. 

If you make your children wear their seatbelts in the car, and you should, then you need to wear your seatbelt in the car regardless of whether or not your children are in the car. 

If you tell your children they need to do their homework, read, study and practice (all important tasks on the path to excellence) you need to make sure you are reading, studying, practicing and striving to get better at your job.

If you tell your children to always treat others with respect, and you should teach the power of unconditional respect, then you need to treat your spouse, your children, the clerk at the store, the pizza delivery guy, the cleaning staff at the hotel and everyone else with respect. 

If you tell your children they should stop talking and listen when someone else is talking, then you need to make sure you stop talking and listen to your children when they are talking to you.

If you make your children put away their phones at mealtime and other important occasions, and you should, then you need to do the same. Unless you serve in a critical on call position because of your profession, the world will not stop because you don’t answer a text or e-mail until after dinner. 

Parents are some of the most influential leaders in society so these are also basic rules for leadership. 

What’s Important Now? Remember your children pay more attention to what you do, than what you say.  

P.S. The above rules also apply for grandparents. You may get to spoil your grandkids, but you still have to set a positive example for them. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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