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W.I.N. Wednesday: The Leadership Reading List

A couple of weeks ago I shared an insight from one of the many great leadership books I have read over the last 6 months. I promised I would share some of those books with you. This week I am making good on that promise.

Here are the 7 Favorite Leadership books I have read in the last 6 months:

Team of Teams: New Rules of Engagement for a Complex World By Stanley McCrystal

In my Dare to Be Great leadership workshops and presentations I draw on three key lessons from Team of Teams.

1.     20th Century Systems, Thinking and Processes are not effective in the 21st Century. We need to think differently.

2.     To be effective as a organization you need to push decision makingdown to the lowest possible levels. His criterion was, “If it supports our efforts and is legal and moral you can do it.”

3.     You must identify and break down the silos in your organization and create a Shared Consciousness. This is huge for organizations to understand the power of breaking down these silos and creating that shared consciousness.

Leadership Lessons From a UPS Driver: Developing a Culture of We Not Me By Ron Wallace

I had the pleasure of meeting Ron a few years ago and spending some time with him. He started with UPS as a delivery driver and retired as President of International Operations. After retiring from UPS he went through the police academy so he could serve as a reserve officer with the Alpharetta police Department. At one point he was volunteering 50 hours a week running their reserve officer program. Ron is also a contributing author for our book am I that man? How heroes, role models and mentors can shape your life.

Ron shares lessons on building a culture of excellence through strong, humble leadership and shared values.

Turn the Ship Around: A True Story of Turning Followers Into Leaders By David Marquet

Marquet talks about his journey to transforming the culture ofthe nuclear submarine USS Sante Fe to allow them to go from from the lowest ranked sub in the fleet to receiving the highest rating ever awarded in the US Navy. His key was changing the culture from the traditional Leader – Follower to one of Leader – Leader and inspiring a sense of ownership and accountability in all the crew. Like Stanley McCrystal he believes in pushing decision making down to the lowest level. Another key lesson is that success as a leader is not about the awards and accolades you receive, it is about developing your people to their highest potential and supporting their journey to greatness.

Real Leadership: 9 Simple Practices for Leading and Living With Purpose By John Addison

In 2015 Addison retired as C-CEO of Primerica. In the book he shares 9 simple (not easy) practices to becoming a great leader. I first became aware of John Addison listening to some interviews he did with Darren Hardy for Success Magazine. I was immediately drawn to his down to earth style and humility.  One of the many profound lessons from the book is the difference between ‘Weather Vane’ leaders and ‘Lighthouse’ Leaders. He says weather vanes are constantly turning and shifting in the wind and influenced by the latest storm. Lighthouses however, stand firm in the storm and serve as a beacon of strength and guidance for others to follow.

It’s My Pleasure: The Impact of Extraordinary Talent and A Compelling Culture By Dee Ann Turner

This is another great book about creating an enduring culture of leadership and service. Turner has spent over 30 years with Chick-fil-a and was the Vice President, Corporate Talent at the time she wrote the book. Turner shares lessons learned over her career from Truett Cathy, the founder of Chick-fil-a, and other company executives. Chick-fil-a’s hospitality policy is to treat everyone with honor, dignity and respect. I love their leadership philosophy “If you are not serving chicken, you need to be serving someone who is.” A great culture needs to be developed, shared and lived over time so that it becomes part of the fabric of the organization.

Primed to Perform: How to Build the Highest Performing Cultures Through the Science of Total Motivation By Neel Ooshi and Lindsey McGregor

This is another great book on culture. The authors explore the six basic motives behind people’s work:

1.     Play,

2.     Purpose,

3.     Potential,

4.     Emotional Pressure,

5.     Economic Pressure and

6.     Inertia.

The first three strengthen performance and the last three weaken it.  The authors also explore the concept of two types of performance, both important yet mutually opposed:

1.     Tactical performance – the ability to execute a plan

2.     Adaptive Performance – the ability to diverge from a plan.

78 Important Questions Every Leader Should Ask and Answer By Chris Clark-Epstein

I am a big fan of questions, as I believe that asking questions is one of the best ways for us to learn and grow.  The book addresses questions you need to ask yourself, your customers, two levels of questions to ask your employees, questions to ask is special circumstances and questions leaders need to answer. There are a lot of great questions and gems of wisdom in this book.

I trust this list has been helpful. What about you? What great leadership books have you read in the last 6 months?

What’s Important Now? Read broadly and deeply. Move beyond collecting the dots (gems of wisdom) and seek to connect the dots.

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: You are a product of your decisions.

"I am not a product of my circumstances.  I am a product of my decisions."

Stephen R. Covey

It is easy to blame circumstances when things do not turn out the way you want them to. It is easy to blame the economy, your parents, the neighborhood you grew up in, your boss or the government.

If however, you are willing to Dare to Be Great and engage in the Pursuit of Excellence you need to accept responsibility for the decisions you make every day. Jim Collins (the author of Good to Great) says, “Greatness is not a function of circumstance. Greatness, it turns out, is largely a matter of conscious choice.”

Understand that you are human. You will have days when you make great decisions, days where you make ok decisions and days where your decisions are less desirable. Every day however, is a new chance to choose. If you make poor decisions today, you have the opportunity to reflect on those, decide what you learned and make a commitment to making better, wiser decisions as you move forward.

What’s Important Now? Accept responsibility for the decisions you make and use the two following questions as a guide to make better decision in your life.

  1. What’s Important Now?
  2. What’s the right thing to do?

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Which 'E' are you focused on?

I have read some great books lately and will be sharing some of those titles with you soon. One of them is Turn the Ship Around: A True Story of Turning Followers into Leaders by U.S. Navy Captain (Retired) David Marquet. The book is about his experiences as the Captain of the USS Sante Fe, a nuclear submarine. The book provides insights on turning organizations from a culture of Leader – Follower to one of Leader – Leader.

There are many great questions, insights and ideas I took away from the book. Here are three of those questions for you to consider in relation to your organization or agency:

  • Are your people trying to achieve excellence, or just trying to avoid mistakes?
  • Has your organization become action averse to avoid errors?
  • Do you spend more time discussing errors that celebrating successes?

Here is a variation of the three questions for you to consider in relation to you personally:

  • In your work, and your life are you trying to achieve excellence, or just trying to avoid mistakes?
  • Have you become action averse to avoid errors?
  • Do you spend more time discussing your errors than celebrating your successes?

Are you focused on Errors or Excellence? Are you focused on not making mistakes or focused on making a difference? Have you embraced inaction as a strategy to avoid making mistakes?

Focusing on excellence instead of errors is not about being reckless. It is about being realistic and starts with accepting that you are human and therefore you will make mistakes, you will screw up and you will fail. Once you get that out of the way you can engage in the pursuit of excellence (excellence not perfection).

The pursuit of excellence requires that you make a commitment to be better tomorrow than you are today, just a little bit better. That means you have to do little things every day in the areas of personal growth and development. Read something new, listen to a podcast or audio book or take a course that will provide new insights and challenge you to think differently. Learn with commitment do more than collect dots (new ideas, skills and knowledge). Challenge yourself to connect the dots so you can apply those concepts in different parts of your life.

What’s Important Now? Focus on the right ‘E’ – Excellence.

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Are they serving you, or holding you back?

I am a big question guy. I believe questions can be the path to self discovery, learning and growth. This blog is build on Life's Most Powerful Question - What's Important Now?

I have been listening to Lewis Howes' School of Greatness podcast for the past two years. Last year he came out with The School of Greatness book. Below are four questions Howes encourages us to ask regarding the people in our life we are spending the most time with. 

From The School of Greatness book:

To find out if someone is serving you in your life or holding you back, ask yourself these four questions:

  1. Do I feel energized or stressed when I’m around or think about this person?
  2. Does this person inspire me or have a negative mindset around me?
  3. Does this person pursue greatness in their life, or are they often a victim to circumstances?
  4. Do they get excited about my success and want to see me succeed, or do they complain about their own life when I achieve my dreams?

What's Important Now? Take the time to reflect on these questions. If you don't like the answers to the questions then it may be time to start hanging out with some new people. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Give wisely.

"One of the greatest gifts you can give to anyone is the gift of your attention."

Jim Rohn

How often have you been talking to someone and wanted to yell, “Just pay attention. Just listen.”

One of the best ways to pay attention is to listen. Really listen. Not the usual thing we do where we are thinking about what we are going to say next, but listen.

Listen to the words. Listen for the emotion. Listen for what is not being said. Ask open ended questions, then listen some more. Ask more questions and listen again. That, is one of the greatest ways you can give the gift of attention.

I have a friend who is a great person with a big heart but, frustrates the hell out of people because he does not listen. The unwillingness to listen and give people your attention not only frustrates them, and makes them feel unimportant and unheard, it hampers your effectiveness as a leader, a mentor, a friend, a parent or a spouse.

The gift of your attention requires you put away your phone, ignore the dings, beeps and vibrations. That text message can likely wait. That new Facebook post or e-mail is not as important as the person in front of you. And yes, we can hear you typing, cooking, cleaning, and doing all those other things when we are talking to you on the phone so stop doing them and pay attention.

If now is not a good time, then say so. Tell the person you really want to listen to what they have to say but now is not a good time. Then find a time that is good for both of you and when that time comes – Pay Attention to Them.

What’s Important Now? - The gift of attention is the result of giving someone the gift of your time. Both are valuable. Give wisely.

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: I get it. It's hard.

In my Dare to Be Great and Heroes Path seminars I talk about excellence and greatness as choices.

Every day you have the choice to show up, do the work and ask yourself:

  • What’s Important Now? and,
  • What’s the right thing to do?

Every day you have the choice embrace mediocrity or to punch mediocrity in the mouth, Embrace the Suck and Dare to Be Great.

These are not easy choices.

Mediocrity is easy – just do what you have been doing, and do it well enough to not make any waves, fly under the radar and get by. 

The pursuit of excellence and daring to be great are hard.

I often have people approach me on the breaks and start their sentence with the words, “Brian you don’t understand.” What follows is an explanation of why their situation is unique and a justification for their unwillingness to pursue excellence and dare to be great.  

Actually, I do understand. While the names and faces are different, and there are some nuances with each organization, the fundamental issues are consistent. I get it. It get that it is hard. I have the same battles in my head and in my life and sometimes I take the easy way out.

When you get to the point where you think you have no choice, then you have become a victim.  Seth Godin recently wrote a blog post about “I don’t have a choice.” Here is some of what he wrote: “More likely: There's no easy choice. No safe choice that also embraces your potential. No choice you can make that doesn't cause short-term misery in exchange for a long-term benefit.” Wow, he hit that on the head as he usually does.

Life is about choice.

What’s Important Now? - Choose well.

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Your legacy. Your Footprints.

A legacy is not simply something you leave behind when you die; it is something you create every day that you live.

What legacy are you creating?

Are the footprints you are leaving in the sand worth following?

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: What's new Willis?

A number of you have me asked what’s new for 2016? What are you working on? Any new seminars in 2016?

The Excellence in Training Academy is still relatively new as I launched it in August of 2015 and is a project I am very excited about. This is a professional development membership site for law enforcement trainers. Each week I post new content in the form of interviews and webinars to the Members Area of the site. This content can only be accessed by members of the Excellence in Training Academy Community. To date I have posted 27 interviews and 7 webinars to the site and have some amazing interviews to come. If you are an academy instructor, in-service trainer or FTO, and willing to invest in your own professional development, then the Academy was created for you. Join the Excellence in Training Academy now and use the code eitmonthfree to get the first month free.

As a result of requests during the last 1/4 of 2015 and so far in 2016 I am now doing more leadership training. I have developed a leadership workshop called Dare to Be Great: The Leadership Challenge. I am running open Dare to Be Great workshops in Spruce Grove, AB on April 12, in Buffalo Grove, IL on April 19 and 20 and Central Saanich, B.C. on October 5.  I am doing a Keynote on The Question of Leadership for the Illinois Assoc. of Chiefs of Police on April 21 and the Dare to Be Great workshop for the new England Chapter of the FBI NAA on June 29.  I am also doing five leadership workshops in California in May with Roy Bethge from The Virtus Group. Details for all these are on the website at www.winningmindtraining.com.

I also have a new seminar called Embrace the Suck and Dare to Be Great. I am running an open seminar for all first responders on October 3 in Central Saanich, B.C.

On November 18, 2015 Roy Bethge and I ran the first WINx: Inspiring Excellence in Law Enforcement event in Naperville, Illinois. The event featured 9 speakers each presenting a dynamic 18 minute talk. It was a huge success and we will be running the 2016 event on November 16, at the same great venue in Naperville. The videos of five of the 2015 talks are now available on the WINx website at www.experiencewinx.com and the remaining four videos will be released over the coming months. It is well worth your time to watch all of the talks as they are all very different.

This summer I will be presenting at the National Tactical Officers Association Conference. I will be doing a breakout session on Embrace the Suck and Dare to Be Great and a one day Excellence in Training workshop.

I have someone working on some updates to my Winning Mind Training website so stay tuned.

I am exploring the possibility of developing an online Performance Enhancement Imagery course later this year.

Some of my top book recommendations from my 2016 reading journey:

·      Extreme Ownership By Jocko Willink and Leif Babin

·      A More Beautiful Question By Warren Berger

·      Brave, Strong and True By Kate Hendricks Thomas

·      It’s My Pleasure By Dee Ann Turner

·      Primed to Perform By Neel Oshi and Lindsay McGregor

Thank you for your interest and support. Make sure you check out the Winning Mind Training website for full course lists, dates and locations. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Stumbling Block or Stepping Stone?

"It's fine to celebrate success but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure."

Bill Gates

I am a big advocate for celebrating our successes however; the greatest learning opportunities in life often come from our failures.

I ask participants in my seminars what are some of the fears that hold them back and serve as roadblocks and barriers in the pursuit of excellence and greatness. The first response is almost always, “The fear of failure”.

When you think of failure as an opportunity to learn from the experience, to grow and to find new and better ways to accomplish the task, the goal or the mission you take away the power of the fear of failure.

John Maxwell in his book Failing Forward encourages us to “take the u out of failure”. Just because you fail to achieve a goal does not make you a failure.

As I reflect on my career and my life, some of my greatest learning and growth came out of failures.

You have a choice with failure. You can see it as a stumbling block that you allow to trip you up and cause you to fall. Or, you can think of failure as a stepping stone to help you reach higher and achieve more.

Take time this week to reflect on some of the failures in your life that resulted in personal or professional growth. Reflect on the lessons learned and the ways in which you are better off because of the experience. 

What’s Important Now? You get to choose how you respond to failure. Choose the stepping stone mentality. Choose to grow.

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Do you smile, gather strength and grow brave?

“I love the man that can smile in trouble, that can gather strength from distress, and grow brave by reflection. 'Tis the business of little minds to shrink; but he whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves his conduct, will pursue his principles unto death.”

Thomas Paine

It is not a question of whether you are going to fail, screw up or make a mistake. It is a question a when, how often and how are you going to respond.

You are going to fail. It is part of the human experience.

You are going to screw up. You are human.

You will make mistakes. None of us are perfect.

Life happens. How do you choose to respond?

Do you embrace failure as feedback? Do you see it as an opportunity to learn a better way to do things and to grow?

When you make a mistake do you man up or woman up, standup, own up to the mistake, identify the learning and move forward better off for the experience?

Do you “gather strength from distress and grow brave by reflection”?

It is tempting to shrink when failure strikes. It is easy to pout and point the finger of blame. It is safer to resolve to never stretch and take a risk again.

What’s Important Now? - Chose growth over easy and safe. Seek solutions over blame.

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: What piece of this do I own?

As a manager or leader what percentage of the responsibility do you have to adapt to Generation Y employees coming into your organization?

As a Generation Y employee coming into an organization what percentage of responsibility do you have to adapt to your peers and bosses who are Gen X or Baby Boomers?

What percentage of responsibility do you have as a trainer or teacher for the learning that takes place in a training room or classroom?

As a student or participant in a training program what percentage of responsibility do you have regarding your learning?

What percentage of responsibilities do police agencies have to develop and maintain effective relationships with the communities their police?

What percentage of responsibility does the community have to ensure they have an effective relationship with their police agency?

The answer to all these questions is the same - 100%.

Now you may be asking, “How can that be? How can everyone have 100% responsibility?”

The only way any of us will get out of the blame game, stop pointing fingers and start making progress is if everyone takes 100% responsibility.

As long as you think the other part owns part of the problem you will be inclined to point the finger of blame and say, “I did my part. They just didn’t hold up their end of things.”

In his leadership classes Bill Westfall challenges leaders to ask themselves, “What piece of this do I own.” My response is All of It.

In his book The Success Principles Jack Canfield’s very first principle is Take 100% Responsibility for Your Life.

The philosophy of 100% responsibility is simple, but it is not easy. Simple is lack of complexity and Easy is lack of effort.

What’s Important Now? – Accept that you do not control other people. You only control yourself. Take 100% responsibility.

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: A greater compliment than being loved?

"To be trusted is a greater compliment than being loved."

George MacDonald

To be trusted to:

·      Keep your word.

·      Do what is right, even when it is not popular.

·      Lead in the face of challenges and obstacles.

·      Stand up and own up when you screw up.

·      Take the blame and give away the credit.

·      Make difficult decisions because your intentions are honorable.

You can be loved, but not trusted.

Trust requires vulnerability.

What’s Important Now? Seek to be worthy of the trust of others.

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Leading is.....

Rank, position and title put you in a position to lead. They do not make you a leader.

Leading is a choice.

Leading is a decision.

Leading is simple, not easy.

Leading is about innovation.

Leading is not about you.

Leading is about serving others.

Leading is about inspiring others.

Leading is about developing others.

Leading is about taking the blame and giving away the credit.

Leading requires asking questions, and then listening to the answers.

Leading requires you to stay hungry and humble.

Leading is about growing relationships.

Leading is about do what’s right, even when it is not popular or expedient.

Leading requires commitment and action.

Leading means you are willing to do the work.

Each of us is in a position to lead. 

What’s Important Now?  Choose to lead.

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Greatness is a choice.

In my Dare to Be Great seminars and workshops I talk about the fact that greatness is a choice. Every day you have to choose between daring to be great and embracing mediocrity.

Mediocrity is easy - embrace the status quo and just keep doing what you have always done.

Daring to be great takes work. Hard work. It requires showing up every day with a commitment to learn, grow and put in the effort to be better than you were yesterday.

Daring to be great means you will make mistakes, you will stumble, you will fall and you will fail. Every time you fall you have to pick yourself up, brush yourself off, determine what you learned and how you will grow from the experience and then move forward a little bloodied and bruised but better off for the experience. It means that when you screw up you stand up, own up, learn from the experience and move forward. 

In a blog post a few months ago Seth Godin wrote about: The four horsemen of mediocrity.

Deniability - "They decided, created, commanded or blocked. Not my fault."

Helplessness - "My boss won't let me."

Contempt - "They don't pay me enough to put up with the likes of these customers."

Fear - "It's good enough, it's not worth the risk, people will talk, this might not work..."

Daring to be great requires that you are aware of "The Four Horsemen" and keep yourself from sliding into that victim mentality. 

What's Important Now? Choose to do the work. Choose greatness over mediocrity. Remember that every day is a new chance to choose. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Planning another year of regret?

According to an article written by a palliative care nurse on "the top 5 regrets people make on their deathbed" the number one regret is:

"I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me."

What's Important Now? - Read the article on the top 5 regrets. Determine what you could do in 2016 to ensure you do not have those regrets at the end of the year. Create a list of your top 5 commitments for 2016.  

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Who you hangin with?

"It is no coincidence that success often runs in families or among tight groups of friends. Greatness surrounds itself with greatness."
 Don Yaeger

Don Yaeger has studied and written about great performers for years. He speaks and writes about the traits of people who overcome obstacles to become great athletes, coaches and leaders and he is absolutely correct that "Greatness surrounds itself with greatness."

In my presentations on Dare to Be Great and The Pursuit of Personal Excellence I use the following quote from W.Clement Stone:

“Be careful the environment you choose for it will shape you; be careful the friends you choose for you will become like them.”

I ask participants to consider the five people in their life who they choose to spend the most time with. I then challenge them to reflect on the mindset and attitudes of those people. Are they hanging with dream stealers and energy vampires? Or, are they hanging with people who have their own hopes, dreams and goals and are there to support them, challenge them, hold them accountable and pick them up when they fall as they pursue their own dreams and goals?

The question for you as you head into 2016 is, "Who you hangin with?" 

What's Important Now? Hang with builders, leaders, thinkers and people committed to excellence and significance in their own life. They will help you achieve that in your life. 

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Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: A powerful way to persuade people?

"The best way to persuade people is with your ears – by listening to them."

Dean Rusk

I am a huge advocate of the power of questions. I believe that questions are the path to growth. Questions are how we learn. Questions are the key to leadership. 

We need to ask questions of ourselves and we need to ask questions of other people. 

Questions however are only of value if you are going to pause and listen to the answer. 

Take the simple question you ask numerous times every day, "How are you?" How often do you pause to listen to the answer? How often do you ask follow up questions when the answer indicates the person is feeling down or struggling? Most people use that question as a statement, a greeting, and not a question.

Too often when we claim we are listening we are actually formulating our answer to what they are saying or thinking about something on our to do list rather than listening to the answer. When you listen make sure you listen for the underlying feelings and emotions and not just the words. When you are in face to face conversations also pay attention to the person’s body language. A response of, "I’m ok?", can be said in a number of ways and have a number of very different meanings. 

People want to feel valued. They want to feel like they are making a contribution. The best way to accomplish both those items is to ask great questions, listen to the answers then keep asking questions to peel away the layers and get deeper into the conversation. Seek to be interested, not interesting. If people feel they are being listened to they will usually feel valued and that they are contributing. You do not have to agree on the best solution or the best way to proceed. If people feel they have been heard however, they are more willing to be supportive of the ultimate decision. 

What's Important Now? Develop the skill of listening and take the time to listen. You might be surprised what you learn. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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Greatness is available.

"Greatness is available to all of us who do common things uncommonly well."

Don Yaeger

Greatness is not limited to a select few in life that most people think are gifted, naturals or lucky to have been born into ideal circumstances. The “gifted” and “the naturals” usually just outwork everyone else and the “lucky” make their own luck.

Greatness is hard. It takes work and effort over the long haul. Greatness means showing up every day and doing “common things uncommonly well.”

Greatness is not about doing that one thing that will change the world, or about winning a Nobel prize, a world championship or multiple gold medals at the Olympics.

As Don Yeager points out, “Greatness is available to all of us.” Paulo Coelho affirms that when he reminds us, “Greatness is the birthright of everyone.”

You are going to have some falls along the way. You are going to stumble and struggle. You are going to make mistakes, have failures and screw up on the journey to greatness. That is ok. You are human after all. Dare to Be Great – Not Perfect.

What’s Important Now? – Accept the challenge and Dare to Be Great. The seeds of greatness are in you. It is hard work, but it is worth it.

Take care.

Brian Willis

www.lifesmostpowerfulquestion.com

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Are you are wheelbarrow or a front end loader?

"Some of us are like wheelbarrows, only useful when pushed and easily upset."

Jack Herbert

When I read this quote it struck me that some people are Wheelbarrows and some are Front End Loaders. 

As Jack Hebert points out in his quote the Wheelbarrows always need to be pushed. They lack the drive, desire and dedication to do the work to pursue excellence and dare to be great. They have embraced mediocrity and when someone does try to push them to live out their potential they become easily upset. They point the finger of blame at everyone else and are continually complaining about their circumstances, their boss, their job, their bad luck and their life. 

The Front End Loaders in life are always working, always striving and always digging. They fill their buckets with knowledge and wisdom from asking great questions, reading good books, listening to podcasts and taking courses. They hang out with fellow Front End Loaders and others who are willing to embrace the suck, find the good, do the work and put in the time and effort. 

They understand that knowledge is not power. It is potential; potential to empower others. Knowledge is of greatest use when it is shared with others, not hoarded. That is why Front End Loaders are always using what is in their bucket to fill the buckets of others who are willing to dare to be great to help them in their pursuit of excellence. 

We are all going to have times in our lives when we are Wheelbarrows. The key is to recognize it and take action to shift out of that mode into Front End Loader mode.

What’s Important Now? – Be the Front End Loader. Do the work to fill your bucket then seek to help others fill their buckets.

Take care.

Brian Willis

www.lifesmostpowerfulquestion.com

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