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W.I.N. Wednesday: Effort and Process

You don’t control outcomes. You do have control over effort and process. When you put in the effort and focus on the process you give yourself the greatest chance of having a desirable outcome. 

This is a lesson I have learned from years of work, failure, learning, asking, reading and listening. It is one of the areas I focused on with all the athletes I have worked with over the years as a mental preparation coach. It is what I teach law enforcement professionals, trainers and leaders.

Too often we get over focused on the outcome, which is most often outside our control. I have read a lot of books, talked to people from a variety of fields and listened to interviews with some of the top coaches in the world. The theme that comes up repeatedly is, “Focus on effort and process, not outcomes.”

The effort and process must be purposeful and deliberate. The effort and process needs to be focused on continual improvement. 

It does not mean that we completely ignore the outcome. Regardless of the outcome we need to conduct an After Action Review to determine what went well, what we learned from the experience, what do we need to do to adjust the effort going forward, are there areas of the process that need to be amended, enhanced, eliminated or improved. 

Last night I started reading the book Chasing Excellence: A Story about Building the World’s Fittest Athletes by Ben Bergeron. Bergeron has coached Champions in the Crossfit Games in both the men’s and women’s divisions. There some very good documentaries on the Crossfit Games and Crossfit athletes on Netflix. When you watch them you realize why they call the winners of the Crossfit Games “The Fittest Man and Woman on Earth”. 

In the introduction for the Chasing Excellence Katrin Davidsdotter talks about effort and process:

“Ben never expects me, or any other athlete, to do more than we are capable of, but he always expects us to give everything we have. That’s what got me hooked in the beginning. It was the challenge to constantly deliver the best I was capable of, every single time.”

“The process is something that Ben puts a lot of emphasis on, and he pays more attention to the effort I put in than how much I lifted or how fast I went. It was during the first year of training with him that I fell in love with the process.”

“Though I moved halfway around the world with the goal of making it back to the Crossfit Games, Ben and I never actually talked about the Games. We didn’t talk about about qualifying, we didn’t talk about finishing in the top ten, and we certainly didn’t talk about about winning. What we did talk about was giving full effort in every single moment of every single day, and becoming the best we possibly could be.”

Katrin started working with Ben after she failed to qualify for the 2014 Crossfit Games. She went on to win the 2015 and 2016 Crossfit Games. 

When you hear players who played for the famous UCLA basketball coach John Wooden they say he never talked about winning. He was all about effort and process. As a result they won 10 National Championships in 12 years. 

Bob Bowman, who was Michael Phelps coach from the early years through all the Olympics games and medals, talks about their relentless focus on effort and process. Phelps is the most decorated Olympian in the history of the Olympic Games. 

Nick Saban is currently the head football coach at Alabama. He has lead teams to 6 national championships and is considered by many to be the best college football coach in the history of US college football. He has a relentless focus on effort and process. 

What’s Important Now? Focus on what you control. Focus on effort and process. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: At the end of the day

"At the end of the day it’s not about what you have or even what you’ve accomplished… It’s about who you’ve lifted up, who you’ve made better, it’s about what you’ve given back."

Denzel Washington

At the end of the day it is easy to focus on all the items you checked off on your “To Do” list. It is easy to focus on the number of sales, how much you made in tips, the accolades you received, the great reviews on your presentation, the number of likes on your blog post, the number of friends you have on Facebook, or the number of connections you have on LinkedIn. 

Those are nice, but they are all about you. 

What did you do to be of service to others? What did you do to positively impact the life of someone else? Who did you mentor today? Who did you invest your time and energy in today? What did you do to be of service to others today? 

On September 30 my oldest son Jesse ran the fourth Carnival Cocktails for Cancer event. The one night event features 25 bars and restaurants who create carnival themed food and cocktails. My youngest son Cody was one of the restauranteurs who participated with all three of his restaurants taking part in the event. They also have raffles and silent auction items, all of which are donated by individuals and companies who want to help make a difference.

The restaurants and bars who are part of this event donate their time, energy and supplies. They take the preparation, the food and drinks seriously. They don’t take themselves too seriously. They dress up for the event and have a fun night in service to a great cause. They do not make any money and may never see any boost to their business as a result of participating. They all do it because they want to be of service and support a great cause. They do it to help advance cancer research. They do it to be of service to people they will never meet. 

In the four years the event has given approximately $250,000.00 to cancer research.

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“Don’t judge each day by the harvest that you reap, but by the seeds that you plant”

Robert Louis Stevenson

Accomplishments, accolades, sales, likes, and retweets are all good. Just be cautious of becoming so focused on the harvest that you reap (what’s in it for me) that you forget about planting seeds (what are you doing for others). 

What’s Important Now? Plant seeds. Nourish those seeds. Be of service. Help others to grow. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Great does not mean famous

"I never wanted to be famous. I only wanted to be great."

Ray Charles

If you are willing to Dare to Be Great, to engage in the pursuit of excellence and strive to continually be the best version of yourself while in service to others, you may end up becoming rich and famous. 

If you are willing to Dare to Be Great, to engage in the pursuit of excellence and strive to continually be the best version of yourself while in service to others, you may end up becoming famous, but not rich.

If you are willing to Dare to Be Great, to engage in the pursuit of excellence and strive to continually be the best version of yourself while in service to others, you may end up becoming rich, but not famous.

If you are willing to Dare to Be Great, to engage in the pursuit of excellence and strive to continually be the best version of yourself while in service to others, you may end up becoming neither rich or famous. 

If you are willing to Dare to Be Great, to engage in the pursuit of excellence and strive to be the best version of yourself while in service to others, you will develop an inner peace and contentment that comes from knowing you did your best, you showed up, you did the work, you helped to serve, grow and develop others and you made a difference in the lives of others. That might even be better than being rich and famous. Being great does not mean you will become rich and famous. It is still worth striving for. 

“Worry not who knows of you. Seek to be worth knowing”

Confucius 

What’s Important Now? Dare to Be Great. Focus on growing, learning, striving and serving.

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: The beautiful thing about learning.

"The beautiful thing about learning is nobody can take it away from you."

B.B. King

Learning is something you control. A teacher, trainer or coach can help you to learn, they can create great learning environments, they can inspire you to want to learn, but they cannot make you learn.  Once you make the choice to learn however, it opens up tremendous opportunities for you to continue to learn and grow. Learning opens the door to a whole new world of possibilities. 

Learning is not restricted to the classroom. In fact, the majority of learning takes place outside of the formal educational settings. It comes from reading, listening, doing, reflecting, engaging, discussing, debating, doing, questioning, listening, connecting, imagining, doing, succeeding, failing, reflecting, repeating. 

Learning is fluid. The more you learn, the more you realize how little you know and how much you still get to learn. Learning can help to shape beliefs and change beliefs. 

As legendary Blues artist B.B. King pointed outs, once you learn something nobody can take it away from you. That does not mean that you should hold on tightly to it. The other beautiful about learning is that you can choose to give it away, to share it.  

The real power from learning comes from sharing what you are learning, how it connects to what you already knew, and how it helps to solve problems (yours and others).  Sharing what you are learning will initiate conversations, discussions, dialogues and debates. These will result in deeper learning, begin to connect the dots, reveal other topics you can choose to learn about and other sources of learning you may not have been familiar with. 

What’s Important Now? Learning is a choice. Choose to learn. Choose to share what you are learning and choose to inquire of others what they are learning.  

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: The Gap

A few weeks ago I was listening to an episode of the Smart People Podcast where the host was interviewing Bob Rosen, the author of the leadership books Grounded and Conscious and CEO of the company Healthy Companies. During the interview Rosen shared a lot of good information and inspired me to start reading Grounded, which I had downloaded to my Kindle library some time ago. I was also inspired to order Conscious. 

One of the things he said that really caught my attentions was, “You need to get comfortable living in the gap. The gap between where we are and where we want to be; between who we are and who we are working to become.”

It struck me that ‘the gap’ is what causes some people to embrace mediocrity, fail to pursue excellence and be unwilling to dare to be great. The gap represents the unknown and it scares the crap out of us at times. Rather than fearing the gap, the unknown next phase of the journey, we need to embrace it and learn to get comfortable in the gap. 

It takes work, commitment and energy to move through that gap. It takes humility to admit what you don’t know, what you need to learn and to enter into the gap of skills and knowledge. It also requires the understanding that if you are on the path to excellence you will only bridge the gap briefly before you enter the next gap on the journey to where you want to be and who you want to become. The journey to the next ridge line requires that you continually enter, and spend time in the gap. 

What’s Important Now? Learn to be comfortable in the gap knowing you will be better for the experience every time you come up and out the other side. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: The power of 't.

‘t

It’s just an apostrophe followed by the letter t. Big deal. 

The question: How much power can that have?

The answer: The power of to determine success or failure. 

Take the word Can and add that apostrophe and the letter t. It suddenly changes a positive, empowering word to a negative, inhibiting word.

How many times in your life have you set a goal for yourself (to lose weight, get a promotion, get a raise, start your own business, double the revenue for your own business, etc) only to have people tell you all the reasons you can’taccomplish that goal? 

How did that make you feel? Did it suck the life out of you and start you into a spiral of negative self-talk where you came up with your own list of reasons why you can’tachieve that goal or dream or can’tpossibly be successful?

If you said hell no, it motivated me to prove them wrong, then good for you. If you reflect back what you likely did was delete the apostrophe and the letter t, and come up with a litany of reasons in your own mind why you CAN.  

When my two sons launched their businesses the skeptics, cynics and naysayers all came out of the woodwork with the reasons they couldn’t be successful: down economy, too young, food and wine industries are too hard to make it a go, etc. Jesse and Cody rejected those excuses, deleted the apostrophe and the letter t and embraced all the reasons they could be successful. And they were successful.

As they launched their next businesses they faced the same skeptics and cynics and responded in the same manner, again being successful. 

What’s Important Now? Hit the delete key twice, or get out the eraser or your pen and scratch out the apostrophe t. Now focus on what you cando. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: As a parent.

As a parent:

If you make your child wear a helmet when they go out to ride their bike, and you should, then you need to wear a helmet when you ride your bike. 

If you make your children wear their seatbelts in the car, and you should, then you need to wear your seatbelt in the car regardless of whether or not your children are in the car. 

If you tell your children they need to do their homework, read, study and practice (all important tasks on the path to excellence) you need to make sure you are reading, studying, practicing and striving to get better at your job.

If you tell your children to always treat others with respect, and you should teach the power of unconditional respect, then you need to treat your spouse, your children, the clerk at the store, the pizza delivery guy, the cleaning staff at the hotel and everyone else with respect. 

If you tell your children they should stop talking and listen when someone else is talking, then you need to make sure you stop talking and listen to your children when they are talking to you.

If you make your children put away their phones at mealtime and other important occasions, and you should, then you need to do the same. Unless you serve in a critical on call position because of your profession, the world will not stop because you don’t answer a text or e-mail until after dinner. 

Parents are some of the most influential leaders in society so these are also basic rules for leadership. 

What’s Important Now? Remember your children pay more attention to what you do, than what you say.  

P.S. The above rules also apply for grandparents. You may get to spoil your grandkids, but you still have to set a positive example for them. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Why?

Why do we blame the entire Millennial generation for the way their parents raised them, their teachers taught them and their coaches coached them?

Why do we assume Millennials are all the same? (There are over 83.5 million Millennials in the US alone)

Why do we blame Millennials for the question "Why"? Millennials did not invent the question Why?.  They may just be the first generation that has the courage to ask the question Why?. Humans are curious by nature. We all want to know why, most of us are just too afraid to ask. 

When people do ask "Why?" they are generally asking because they are curious about the rationale and want to know why, not to be insubordinate. If you cannot explain why, there is obviously a problem with your knowledge and understanding of the task you have asked someone else to do. 

Why do we assume Gen Z and the same as Gen Y? They are not. 

If you want to be an effective leader get out front of the question “Why?” and explain the why up front. People will be more engaged when they understand the why. 

Simon Sinek reminds us to start with Why. He asks, “Why do you do what you do? What is your purpose, your cause, your mission? Why do you get up in the morning and why should anyone care?” 

What about you? What is your why? Why have you chosen the career that you have? Why do you do what you do? Why is it important for you to do excellent work?

Why do you lead? Why do you lead the way you do? 

Why do you parent the way you do? 

Why is it important to you to strive for excellence in your life? Why is it important to understand that when you commit to striving for excellence that sometimes you will fail? Why is it important to embrace failure as an opportunity to learn and grow? 

Why do you believe what you do about people, about organizations, about things, about the world? 

Why do you read these blog posts every Wednesday? 

Why is it important to keep asking Why?

Why? One word, three letters with the power to challenge, anger, reveal, expand and engage. 

What’s Important Now? Spend some time this week with the question “Why?” You might be surprised at what you uncover. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: It is those who act.

In one of his Optimize +1 daily posts Brian Johnson shared this quote from Aristotle:

“Just as at the Olympic Games it is not the best-looking or the strongest men present that are crowned with wreaths, but the competitors (because it is from them that the winners come), so it is those who act that rightly win the honours and rewards in life.”

Brian points out, “Theory is rudimentary philosophy. Practice is the advanced work.”

If you want to accomplish great things in your life you have to be willing to do the work every day. You have to take the theory and put it into practice. Having the knowledge and understanding of the theory is nice but, it accomplishes nothing until you take action.

I have had the privilege of working as a mental preparation coach for athletes who won tournaments and national championships. Two of the athletes I worked with went on to compete in the Olympic Games. They achieved those successes because of their hard work. They were willing to put in the effort day in and day out. They were willing to put in the hard work on days when they were excited to train and on days when they just wanted to stay in bed or skip the training for the day. They built a team of people to train with, support and draw strength and support from. They stayed humble and hungry. They were hungry for new knowledge, new ideas, and new ways of thinking, which they would put into action to make themselves better. When they had success they remained humble wanting to give credit to their supporters and team. 

I have seen the same with people in training and in business. There are those who read all the books, attend all the seminars and workshops and never take action on anything they have learned. Others are continually striving to find ways to apply and share what they have learned to make themselves and those around them better. They realize that knowledge is not power; it is potential. The potential to empower others. The potential to ignite and drive change. That potential however, is useless without action. There are a lot of people in the world with huge potential who have accomplished very little. 

It is easy to look at the people at the top in any sport, business or endeavour and tell yourself, “It is easy for them. They are such naturals. They are just gifted. They are so lucky.” When you peel back the curtain and look behind the scenes you see how hard they work. You see their struggles and setbacks. You see their quest for knowledge. You see their commitment to action. You see the reality.

Action alone will not guarantee success. Action comes with struggles, obstacles, barriers and failures. Action combined with reflection, reframing, a passion for learning, a growth mindset, grit, persistence, resilience, great questions, a great team, humility, more questions and a commitment to excellence are all critical to increase your chances of success and significance. There are never any guarantees. 

When my mom used to brag about the success my sons Jesse and Cody were having in all their businesses people used to say, “They are so lucky.” My mom would reply, “Yes they are and the harder they work, the luckier they get.” 

What’s Important Now? Do the work. Turn the knowledge and potential into action. Keep striving. Keep learning. Keep growing. Keep moving. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Wisdom from the Blues

One of the songs on my workout playlist is the blues song Dat Maybe by Tas Cru. While the song is about love and honesty in a relationship there are powerful life and leadership messages in the chorus: 

“Don’t say you will if you think you won’t. Don’t say you do if you know you don’t. Don’t give me that heh, don’t give that ho, don’t give me that maybe when your heart says no.”

The three key lessons:

  • Be honest.
  • Do what you say you will do. 
  • There is some great wisdom in blues lyrics.

Don't say you will if you know you won't. If you do not have the time, if the request is not in alignment with your priorities, if you are not going to be able to follow through then let the other person know that up front.  That will take a lot of stress off of you, let the other person move forward or in a different direction and will preserve, and likely enhance your relationship. If you say you will, then follow through and do what you said you would do.

Don't say you do if you know you don't. Don't say you will support that person for promotion, or that you support the project or initiative if you don't. Be honest. Be helpful. Offer guidance on what areas the person needs further experience, training or development to earn your support. 

Don't say maybe if your heart says no. If your heart says no then connect your heart to your mouth and say no there as well.

No is a hard word for many of us to say because we want to help and we want to be seen as being positive and supportive. You can say no politely and professionally. Failure to say no when you do not have the time, energy or belief however, results in being over committed, stretched too thin, stressed out and burned out. It leaves you feeling resentful and angry. It destroys trust and relationships. 

Some of my deepest frustrations and regrets are from saying yes, or maybe, when I should have said no.  

What’s Important Now? Say no more often. When you do say yes; do what you said you would do. Listen to the blues more often.

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Some Wisdom From Confucius

Some words of wisdom from Confucius to reflect on this week.

“Worry not who knows of you. Seek to be worth knowing.”

“The Master said, He does not mind not being in office; all he minds about is whether he has qualities that entitle him to office. He does not mind failing to get recognition; he is too busy doing the things that entitle him to recognition.”

Are you worried about titles, or focused on doing important work?

Are you focused on recognition, rewards and accolades or on living a life of significance?

Are you worried about who knows of you, or are you focused on learning, growing and working so you are worth knowing?

Are you more interested in who gets the credit, or are you focused on doing the work and making a difference?

Are you always trying to be in the sunlight and spotlight, or do you get out of the way and let the light shine on others?

Are you focused on reaping the harvest, or focused on planting, nourishing and tending to the seeds?

When you screw up do you immediately make excuses and point the finger of blame at others, or do you stand up and own up?

Are you willing to take the blame and give away the credit?   

What’s Important Now? Life is full of choices. Choose well. Choose to learn, do the work, grow yourself and other, take the blame and give away the credit, and seek to be worth knowing. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: This is about you

Last week we talked about the philosophy that as a leader, trainer, coach or teacher It Is Not About You, it is about the people you have the privilege and honour to lead, coach, teach or train. 

There are some things however, that are about you, and are under your control, including:

  • Attitude.
  • Effort.
  • Your inner dialogue and self talk.
  • How you respond to challenges and obstacles. 
  • Your Mindset (Fixed or Growth).
  • Decisions (such as what you eat, whether or not you work out, whether you are going to read or engage in other personal growth activities every day).
  • How you treat other people.
  • Your level of preparation.
  • Your integrity.
  • Your willingness to be a leader regardless of your rank, position or title.
  • Your commitment to training, learning, and family. 
  • Your commitment to the pursuit of personal excellence.

What's Important Now? Leadership, teaching and training is not about you. The pursuit of personal excellence, which is critical to becoming a better leader, teacher and trainer, is all about you. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: It's Not About You

If you are in a formal leadership position in your organization. If you are a teacher, a coach or a trainer. If you are a volunteer on a condominium board of directors. If you are a Cub Scout or Girl Guide leader. Remember this: It is Not About You. 

It is easy to think it is about you. You are the one with the title. People call you Sir or Mam out of respect for your position, rank or title.  You are the one who is at the front of the room controlling the training (the participants control the learning). You are the one with the bigger office and the preferred parking stall (a whole different discussion). You are making decisions that will impact a large group of people.

The best leaders, teachers, trainers and coaches understand that it is not about them, it is about the people they have the privilege and honor of leading, teaching, training, coaching and serving. Your job is to help them to learn, to grow, to develop, to succeed, to recognize and achieve their potential and to become the best possible version of themselves. Your job is to make decisions based on what is best for the greater good, not is best for you. 

As Nancy Duarte writes in her book Resonate, and in a Harvard Business Review publication she wrote, “You are not the hero. The people you are leading or teaching are the heroes. Your job is to be the wise and humble mentor.” Serving as a wise and humble mentor not easy, but it is a critical mission. 

When you make it about those you serve, and not about you, it is easier to embrace the philosophy, “Take the blame and give away the credit.” When something goes wrong with your team, your division or your organization you immediately stand up as the leader and publically own it. You will get all the information to determine what happened, why it happened and you will take action to ensure that everyone learns from the experience and that the mistake is not repeated, but when it happens you immediately and publically stand up, own up and take the blame for what happened.

When things go well, as they often do, and everyone is raving about the great initiative or the success of the group or organization, you as the leader give away the credit, in all directions.

When you embrace and model the philosophy of “It is not about me” you make it easier for others to also embrace this mindset and in doing so you create a culture where people are focused on serving and helping other. Those who are only concerned with serving themselves will standout and either get onboard or move on. 

What’s Important Now? Seek to be the wise and humble mentor who takes the blame and gives away the credit. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Two Pains

How often do you beat yourself up feeling guilty over things you regret? You regret things you did as well things you did not do when you knew you should. You regret things you said, and things you left unsaid. You regret not starting a retirement savings plan when you were younger. You regret not standing up at that meeting and voicing your concerns on an important issue. You regret not having a courageous conversation with a friend about their behaviors and actions. You regret not being honest with a friend when they asked for feedback. 

There is no value of beating yourself up over regrets. Living with the woulda, coulda and shouldas will not make you a better person, it will only serve to stress you out. Carrying around a backpack filled with guilt and regrets will weigh you down and wear you out. 

“We must all suffer from one of two pains: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. The difference is discipline weighs ounces while regret weighs tons.”

Jim Rohn

You cannot change what you did or did not do. You can however, learn from the experience, grow from reflecting on the experience and be better off for the experience. You can embrace the Chinese proverb that says, “The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.” and take action based on what you learned.

You cannot change what you said or did not say. You can offer a sincere apology for what you did say. You can say what you left unsaid. If that is not possible because that person has passed away, then forgive yourself, move forward and share your experience with others so they can learn from your experience. 

You can learn to live with the pain of discipline. The discipline to do what is right when it is not what is popular or expedient. The discipline to have those courageous conversations with your friends, family and peers. The discipline to stand up and own up when you screw up. The discipline to stand up when others are being bullied or picked on in the workplace. The discipline to be the voice of reason on emotional issues. The discipline to speak up for what is right up when others choose to be silent.  The discipline to exercise daily. The discipline to read, learn and grow daily. The discipline to ask the tough questions of yourself and others. The discipline to ask for clarification, rather than to assume. 

What’s Important Now? Discipline is a learned behaviour. Learn to live with the pain of discipline. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Be proud to be a glue guy or gal.

If you follow sports it is an interesting time of year. The NFL, NBA, NHL all had their drafts recently. Leading up to the draft was all the hype around who would be the #1 pick, who would be the next superstar in the league. Every year these drafts generate a new batch of millionaire athletes. 

It is also free agency time in the NHL and NBA and teams are all scrambling to sign or re-sign the superstars. In the NBA there are a number of players who will earn 35 to 40 million dollars next year in salary alone.  

It is also World Cup time for the millions of soccer fans around the world. While the English fans are celebrating going deeper into the tournament than they have in the past few World Cups the much anticipated matchup between Messi and Reynaldo never materialized. 

Baseball is about half way through their season while the CFL season is in the early stages and the NFL teams are getting ready for training camp. 

The interesting thing when you listen to all the talk about sports teams, much like the business world, is that the majority of the talk and hype is about the superstars. The top scorers, top earners, and top draft picks some of whom never live up to the hype.

Most of us however are not superstars. We are what Dock Vitale calls “glue guys and gals”.

"Glue guys aren't superstars. They're not the No. 1 option. They just do things only coaches really appreciate. The stars get the headlines, but glue guys help you get in the winner's circle. I don't think you can win without having that kind of player."

Dick Vitale

This is not a sports thing. Every profession has glue guys and gals and every successful organization has them. 

You are not the highest paid, not the best known, and may not have the highest stats. You show up every day and give 100% effort. You continually strive to be your best, the best version of yourself that you can be. You are team players and continually contribute to the overall team goals and mission. You are not concerned with who gets the credit; in fact you live by the adage, “Take the blame and give away the credit”. You do the work that needs to be done and often the work no one else wants to do, and you do it to the best of your ability. 

What’s Important Now? Be proud to be a “Glue guy or gal”. You are what holds the team together. Without glue guys and gals there would be no superstars, there would be no championships, there would be no successful companies and organizations.

Note: To all our W.I.N. Wednesday subscribers in the United States, Happy 4thof July. As you gather with family and friends remember W.I.N..

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Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: The Virtues

In his book The Road to Character, David Brooks talks about two kinds of virtues - Resume Virtues and Eulogy Virtues. He defines them this way:

The résumé virtues are the ones you list on your résumé, the skills that you bring to the job market and that contribute to external success.

The eulogy virtues are deeper. They’re the virtues that get talked about at your funeral, the ones that exist at the core of your being—whether you are kind, brave, honest or faithful; what kind of relationships you formed.

If someone were to ask you, “Which of these two types of virtues is most important to you?”, most of us would probably say Eulogy Virtues.  If however, you were to honestly examine your life what would you see? Would you see that you living your life in such a way as to build those Eulogy Virtues or are you truly focused on building the resume?

The Resume Virtues are what tend to get the hype and the attention. They are usually what get you the job and the promotion. They are what you write about in your description on your LinkedIn page. They are likely what you talk about over a Starbucks coffee of a glass of Argentinian Malbec with a co-worker.

Ask yourself if it is Eulogy Virtues or Resume Virtues that:

  • Drive the decisions you make about how to spend your time and your energy.
  • Determine the people in your life whom you choose to hang out with.
  • Influence what you read.
  • Dictate what courses and conferences you attend and whom you hang out with at those conferences.
  • Resume Virtues are often easier for us to focus on. They seem more tangible. They can be listed on your Resume or your Curriculum Vitae. They are easier to talk about. They are used to introduce you at a business meeting, prior to your big speech and even at a party. In the end however, it is not those virtues people will remember and speak about when you retire from your job and from life.

What’s Important Now? You do not just have to choose one or the other. They are both necessary. The question becomes one of focus and energy. On which of these two virtues do you put your greatest energy and focus? Over the years I have come to realize that if your focus and energy is on the Eulogy Virtues, those virtues will have a significant positive impact on your resume.

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Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Where does confidence come from?

I recently heard the question, "Where does confidence come from?" asked during a podcast interview I was listening to.

Here is my philosophy.

Confidence comes from Competence.

Competence comes from hard work, practice, reading, listening, learning from mistakes and failures, more work, more reading, more listening, more mistakes, more learning, more work, repeat, repeat, repeat.

It all starts with commitment. You need to make the commitment to strive for excellence, to learn, to grow, and to show up every day and do the work. 

What’s Important Now? Make the commitment then do the work. 

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Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: The Myths

People love to seem to buy into the myths of “The Natural” and “The Overnight Success”, neither of which exists. I believe the allure of both these myths is that they relieve people of any pressure to put in the time and do the work necessary to achieve that level of success or achievement. 

"Spectacular achievements are always preceded by painstaking preparation."

Roger Staubach

We like to argue that some people, especially athletes, are genetically predisposed to be successful in that particular sport. Maybe, but so are large numbers of other people who never achieved those levels of accomplishment.

Michael Phelps, the most decorated Olympic athlete in history, may have a body type and lung capacity that is ideal for swimming, but no one ever outworked Michael Phelps and his long time coach Bob Bowman. 

Potential is a nice thing to talk about, but of little value if you are unwilling to do the work it takes to activate that potential. 

"Most of us aren't performing at the level of our potential, we are performing at the level of our preparation."

Steven Furtick

The research is very clear that people, who have achieved what others would call mastery, in any arena of performance, have achieved that level through hundreds and thousands of hours of purposeful and dedicated practice and preparation. 

A singer might achieve name recognition in a short period of time after delivering an amazing performance on The Voice, or Britains Got Talent when their performance goes viral through reposts on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, iTunes and other social media platforms. However, without years of hard work, sacrifice and dedicated practice they would not have been able to deliver that amazing performance in the first place. 

What’s Important Now? – Want to achieve great things in your life? Dump the myths. Do the work. 

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Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: What are you focused on making?

Are you focused on making a living or focused on making a difference?

When you are focused on making a living you tend to show up, do what you need to do to keep the boss off your back and get through each day so you can get your pay cheque at the end of the month. You might be looking for opportunities to work some overtime to get a little extra on your pay cheque. You might even be looking for ways to make yourself look good to the boss so you are in line for the next promotion. 

When you focus on making a difference you show up looking to contribute and to serve. It can be the exact same job, the difference is your focus and your attitude. Focusing on making a difference means you show up with a heart of service looking for ways to better serve your peers, your boss, your organization’s mission and vision and better serve your clients. 

Seeking to make a difference is about punching mediocrity in the mouth, embracing the pursuit of excellence and daring to be great. As Jim Collins says, “Greatness is a process and not an end state.” 

When you focus on making a difference you take action to find solutions to the problems that those who are focused on making a living complain about, but do nothing about. When you identify problems you put forward solutions and well thought out plans to your boss to let them know what actions you and the team are going to take to solve the problem. When the solution is successful and the compliments roll in, remember the wise words of Seth Godin, “Take the blame and give away the credit.” 

If you focus on making a living you often feel like you are in a rut, going through the motions and living in your own version of Groundhog Day. 

If you focus on making a difference you always have new challenges to energize you and drive you forward. When you do get knocked down it is easier to get back up and back on track. 

What’s Important Now? Focus on making a difference. You may find that in doing so you also make a good living. 

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Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Success is........

People have many different definitions of success. Unfortunately in both the mainstream media and on social media success seems to be tied to titles, awards, promotions, and the amount of money you make. 

In the eyes of some in order to be successful you have to have a multimillion-dollar business, have the big house, the fancy new car, win the championship or the gold medal. 

It can be easy to doubt yourself, your success and your impact when you do not have any of those things. The reality is you do not need those to be successful and live a life of significance. 

I am a fan of former UCLA men’s basketball coach John Wooden’s philosophies on life and on success.

"Success is peace of mind which is a direct result of self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best to become the best you are capable of becoming."

John Wooden

This is about being Your Best, not The Best. It is about being the best version of you that you can be. It requires work and effort. It requires making the commitment to always be better tomorrow than you are today. Fulfilling that commitment requires you to do something every day in the area of personal growth and development. That means every day you need to read and or listen to something that will feed your mind. You also need to push yourself to improve in an area of your life, learn a new skill or enhance a skill you already have or have a deep conversation with someone who will challenge the way you think and help you to grow.  

In any endeavor and on every project you need to work hard and give it your best effort. When you get to the point where you are tempted to quit and tell yourself, “That is good enough.” keep going and do a little bit more so that at the end of the day you are proud of the work you did.

“What one can be, one must be.”

Abraham Maslow

What’s Important Now? – What you can be, you must be. Put in the work and the effort so that at the end of every day you can experience the self-satisfaction in knowing you did your best to become the best you are capable of becoming.

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Brian Willis

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