W.I.N. Wednesday: Jealousy - You can't just cherry-pick.

"When I was young, I had a lot of jealousy in me... I learned to get rid of it. It still crops up every now and then. It's such a poisonous emotion because, at the end of the day, you're no better off, you're unhappier, and the person you're jealous of is still successful or good-looking, or whatever they are.
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I realized that all these people that I was jealous of, I couldn't just cherry-pick and choose little aspects of their life. I couldn't say I want his body; I want her money; I want his personality. 
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You have to be that person. Do you want to actually be that person with all of their reactions, their desires, their family, their happiness level, their outlook on life, their self-image? If you're not willing to do a wholesale, 24/7, 100% swap with who that person is, then there is no point in being jealous."

Naval Ravikant

Jealousy is an emotion we likely all experience at times. I know I do. But as Naval Ravikant points out in the above quote it is a poisonous emotion. In fact, the second part of the word jealousy describes how it generally makes us feel – lousy. The sad part is that what we are actually jealous of may be an illusion created by social media. You see a snapshot of a person’s life. You see the façade of happiness on the social media account. Not a lot of people post about all the bad, ugly shit in their life. And, if they do, you are probably not jealous of that crap.

The best advice I have come across to snap me out of that feeling of jealousy is the above quote from Ravikant. When I step back and ask myself, “Would I want to be that person? Would I want all of their life, not just this one small sliver?” The answer is generally “Hell no.” Ok then. Time to follow the lead from my dog and kick some grass over that shit and move on.

What’s Important Now? Next time you feel those pangs of jealousy remember you can’t just cherry-pick and choose little aspects of a person’s life so let it go and get back to work on your life.

Take care.

Brian Willis

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