W.I.N. Wednesday: Some Advice for Life

The 6 Life-Changing Rules John Wooden learned from his father:

1.    Never lie.

2.    Never cheat.

3.    Never steal.

4.    Don’t whine.

5.    Don’t complain.

6.    Don’t make excuses. 

 From Lou Holtz:

“Do the right thing, do the best you can, and always show people you care.” 

From to the 2016 song Humble & Kind by Lori McKenna 

Always stay humble and kind

Hold the door, say please, say thank you
Don't steal, don't cheat, and don't lie

I don't expect a free ride from no one
Don't hold a grudge or a chip, and here's why
Bitterness keeps you from flying

From Seth Godin:

“Take the Blame. Give away the credit.”

 From me:

Never post, repost, share or forward an article that you have not read in its entirety. Some documents have catchy titles but the content is questionable. 

When you screw up, and you will screw up, Stand Up and Own Up. 

 Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: You get to decide.

You get to decide where you put your focus.

You can focus on the negative or you can focus on the positive.

You can focus on what’s wrong or you can focus on what’s right.

You can focus on the mistake or failure or you can focus on the lessons and moving forward.

You can focus on building up or you can focus on tearing down. 

You can focus on the past or you can focus on the present and build for the future.

You can focus on problems or you can focus on solutions. 

You can focus on blaming others or your can focus on taking responsibility.

Where you put your focus will determine how you use your time and energy. Time and energy are limited resources. 

If you focus on the negative you will likely spend your time and energy complaining about entities like the government and big business and other people like your boss, your peers and people on social media who you do not even know. 

If you focus on mistakes and errors you will likely spend your time and energy making excuses and playing the blame game or avoiding risk to avoid errors. 

If you focus on the past you will spend your time and energy replaying the things people said to you, the opportunities and promotions that passed you by and all the unfair things other people did that have resulted in you being where you are at in your life. If you focus on the present you can see opportunities and see the past experiences as guides and building blocks. 

Focusing on the negative and spending time whining, worrying and blaming will eat up your time and drain your energy. You also run the risk of becoming an energy vampire and sucking the life out of those around you. 

“I cannot help believing that the world would be a better and happier place if we’d learn to talk more about what’s right than what’s wrong. We have so much to celebrate.”

Michael R. Parry

If however, you choose to focus on what’s right instead of what is wrong, on solutions instead of problems, on the lessons and opportunities for growth instead of mistakes and failures, on the present instead of the past, and on taking responsibility and inviting accountability instead of playing the blame game you will likely make good use of both your time and energy. 

What’s Important Now? Focus, time and energy, you get to decide how you use them. Choose well. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Beware the Motivation Trap

Too often we mistakenly believe motivation is the key to changing behaviors.  The problem with motivation is that it comes and goes. And when it waivers or goes away all together we get into trouble.

If I only work out when I am motivated I will skip a lot of workouts.

If I only eat healthy when I am motivated, I will have a lot of cheat meals, cheat days and cheat weeks. 

If I only read when I am motivated I may not read very many books. 

If I only write when I am motivated, I will have a lot of weeks when I fail to write and post anything to any of my three weekly blogs. 

“The way we act determines how we feel way more often than the way we feel determines how we act.”

Seth Godin

 The key is to create habits or rituals that do not depend on motivation. At certain times, I do certain things. As Seth Godin said in his latest interview with Tim Ferris, “Merely do the work without the narrative and without the drama.”

 Unless I am teaching I go for a walk after my first meal of the day and again after my last meal of the day.  I eat, clean up my dishes and go. Whether I feel like it or not is irrelevant, I go for the walk. 

 After my first coffee in the morning I work out for 30 minutes. I follow this with a 30 minute sauna during which I do 15 minutes of stretching and 15 minutes of breath work. 

I eat my meals at the same time every day and eat the same thing every day. (I don’t like to cook and I prefer to use my mental energies elsewhere than the kitchen.) 

I go to bed at the same time every day and get up at the same time every day. There are a few times during the year where I have to alter the time I go to bed, but the time I get up is consistent with the exception of a few days each year where I get up at 2:00 a.m. instead of 3:00 a.m. to get to an airport to catch an early flight.  

I write and post 3 blog posts every week.  Tuesday is Excellence in Training Tuesday, followed by W.I.N. Wednesday and Dare to Be Great Leadership Thursday. 

Does any of this make me “special”? Hell No. Does this make me “super disciplined”? Not even close. I have just come to accept that if I only do things when I am motivated, or when I feel like it, I will skip things I need to do so I have created processes, rituals and habits for certain things in my life.

“Process saves us from the poverty of our intentions.”

Elizabeth King

I have listened to many successful writers say, “If you want to be a writer, then write. Every day. Write whether you feel like it or not. Write whether the content is good or not. If you want to be a writer, write.”  This philosophy can be applied to many aspects of life. 

A lot of people are motivated to workout and “eat healthy” on January 1. For most of them that motivation is gone within 2 to 3 weeks. Others do not wait until the start of the year to start a habit. They merely do the work without the narrative and without the drama. 

Andrew Huberman, a professor in the faculties of Neurology and Ophthalmology at Stanford says there are 5 steps to how your nervous system processes information:

1.    Sensing

2.    Perception

3.    Feelings / Emotions

4.    Thoughts

5.    Action / Behaviors

He says the key to changing behaviors is to work in reverse order and start with action / behaviors. This is the Act As If concept I wrote about last year. Huberman also says that activities like walking, biking and running create what is called “optic flow” as a result of the eye movements during forward motion through the environment. He explains this is the foundation for the therapy EMDR. There is also a lot of research supporting the power of nature so if you can combine the forward motion with nature such as a walk in the park, you are doubling your benefits. 

So, what are you waiting to start? What area of your life are you waiting for inspiration or motivation to get started? What if, instead of waiting for that inspiration, motivation or divine intervention, you merely got to work without the narrative and without the drama? 

If you want to learn more about Habits read Atomic Habits by James Clear or The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg. 

What’s Important Now? Create habits and rituals and merely do the work without the narrative and without the drama. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Are we looking in the wrong place?

We often spend a lot of time looking outward for the cause of our problems. We look at our bosses, our politicians, and our co-workers, everywhere other than in the mirror. It is easy to get caught up looking outward as it takes the pressure off of us. We are usually looking so we can find someone or something to blame. 

The problem is that we do not control anyone else, so maybe we are looking in the wrong place. We do however have control over ourselves. We control our thoughts, decisions and actions. We control whether we get caught up in the blame game, or choose to take the Extreme Ownership approach as laid out by Leif Babin and Jocko Willink in their book Extreme Ownership.

“The chief task in life is simply this: to identify and separate matters so that I can say clearly to myself which are externals not under my control, and which have to do with the choices I actually control. Where then do I look for good and evil? Not to uncontrollable externals, but within myself to the choices that are my own . . .”

Epictetus

It is easy in today’s world to get caught up looking outward and labelling others as “evil”. That is not good however, for our physical or mental health, for relationships, or for achieving any meaningful change or progress. The more we look inward and take responsibility for ourselves, the more we can let go of the “good” and “evil” labels we place on others. We also need to let go of those labels toward ourselves and our actions and choices.

We are all human. All doing the best we can with the tools we have. We are all flawed. We are all striving. We are all struggling. We all make mistakes. We all misstep and misspeak at times. We will all stumble and fall. We all have strengths and weaknesses. We all have the ability to look inward and to take responsibility for what we control, which is ourselves. 

What’s Important Now? Look inward and stand up and own up. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Thank You

To all those who have served and who continue to serve:

Thank you for your service and your sacrifice.

W.I.N. Wednesday: You don't have to be a podcaster.

Last week I was corresponding with friend and mentor Chip Huth about his new podcast with Tanner brock called Changing Discourse. Changing Discourse launches tomorrow (November 5) so be sure to check it out on any of the podcast platforms. Between Tanner and Chip’s connections I guarantee there will be some amazing guests. Chip commented on how he didn’t realize how much work goes into doing a podcast, and how much he was enjoying the process. 

Having done 275 hour long interviews in the last 5 years for the Excellence in Training Academy and another 100 hour long interviews for the ILEETA Learning Lab in the last 3 years I can attest to how much work goes into preparing for those interviews. As part of the preparation I will read articles and books written by the person I am going to interview. I will also watch and listen to interviews and videos of presentations they have done for a variety of platforms. All of this preparation is so I can hopefully ask intelligent questions of my guest and make the best use of his or her time and energy. I often learn as much or more from the preparation, as I do from the interview. 

All this being said, you do not have to have a Membership Site or a Podcast for you to start doing interviews.  If you are interested in creating a culture of learning in your organization, interviews would be one way to do that. Sit down and make a list of people you would like to interview.  It can be people in your own organization where you interview them about their experiences, philosophies, and favorite books, podcasts and TED or TEDx talks. It can be authors, leaders, coaches, researchers, entrepreneurs and others you would like to interview in order to enhance your learning and bring value to your co-workers and your organization. These interviews do not have to be 2 or 3 hours like some of Jocko Willink or Tim Ferris’ podcasts or 60 minutes like the interviews I do.  They might be 15 or 20 minutes of good, solid content.  These interviews can be video interviews, or audio only. I do audio only so people don’t have to worry about hair, makeup, background, or lighting. 

If you are going to do this be sure to do your homework up front. This includes researching the platform you will use to record the interviews, how you are going to schedule the interviews and how you are going to distribute the recordings . All this is in addition to the research on your guests. Let your guest know how long the interview will be, who the audience is and whether it will be distributed strictly in house in your organization or on a public platform. Also be willing to provide them a copy of the interview that they can use and share as they see fit. 

Be prepared for people to say no, or simply not respond to your interview request. It is usually not about you so don’t take it personally. People have busy lives and this is one more demand for their time and energy. If they say no, thank them for considering the request and move on. 

Interviews can be a great way to gain and distribute knowledge, insights and wisdom within your organization. It is also a great way for you to continually learn. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Two Desires

In his September 3, 2020, 3-2-1- Thursday post James Clear shared the following passage from the book The Web of Belief by Willard Van Orman Quine and J.S. Ullian. I had to read through it a few times to let myself digest the distinction between the desire to be right and the desire to have been right. 

"The desire to be right and the desire to have been right are two desires, and the sooner we separate them the better off we are. The desire to be right is the thirst for truth. On all counts, both practical and theoretical, there is nothing but good to be said for it. The desire to have been right, on the other hand, is the pride that goeth before a fall. It stands in the way of our seeing we were wrong, and thus blocks the progress of our knowledge.”

Upon reflection it struck me that the desire to “be right” involves the curiosity to continually be reading, listening, questioning, reflecting and learning to discover the truth based on the research and the evidence, not based on what you want it to be. It also requires the humility to raise your hand and say, “I don’t know.” Or “I don’t understand.” Speaker, leader, entrepreneur and former Navy Seal Clint Bruce refers to this as “Intellectual Courage”. He distinguishes Intellectual Courage from Physical Courage. He says there is an element of necessity to physical courage where Intellectual Courage is escapable. All you have to do is not raise your hand and no one will know that you didn’t know. 

We have all likely fallen prey to the desire to “have been right”. I know I have. The danger as pointed out by Willard Van Orman Quine and J.S. Ullian in that it “blocks the progress of our knowledge”. It stands in the way of us actively seeking the truth and shifts us to a defensive posture or a posture where we are trying to attack others beliefs to prove they are wrong. Not only will this block the progress of our knowledge it will block all positive progress, change and growth and mire us in conflict. 

What’s Important Now? Embrace curiosity and demonstrate intellectual courage by embracing the desire to be right.  

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: If You Are Ever Tempted

“If you are ever tempted to look for outside approval, realize that you have compromised your integrity. If you need a witness, be your own.”

Epictetus

It is easy to find yourself looking for outside approval. Looking for approval from your “Friends” and “Followers” on social media, from your boss, from peers or the audience to whom you are speaking. 

The problem with looking for outside approval is the temptation to make compromises to get that approval. Those compromises might mean doing or saying what is popular instead of taking a stand for what is right. It might mean failing to speak up on an important topic at a meeting and expressing concerns with the plan of action proposed by the boss. It might mean ignoring inappropriate behaviour or comments. 

In the Dare to Be Great leadership workshop I talk about Brene Brown’s three elements of Integrity:

1. Choosing Courage over Comfort.

2. Choosing What’s Right over What’s Fun, Fast or Easy

3. Practicing Your Values, not just Preaching Your Values. 

Prior to this definition we discuss the definitions of Bravery and Courage from Jack Colwell and Charles (Chip) Huth:

• Bravery is to act for what is right, at risk to yourself, when members of your social group agree with the act.

• Courage is to act for what is right, at risk to yourself, when members of your social group do not agree with the act. 

With this definition of Courage the risk is rarely a physical risk. It is a risk that people will be upset with you, talk about you behind your back, label you or blacklist you. 

In order to practice your values, you must be clear on your values. These are both your personal Core Values as well as the Core Values of your organization. Values are guiding principles and Core Values are the guiding principles at the heart of the person or organization. Your personal Core Values should align with those of the organization where you work. 

Understanding the definition of Courage and the three elements of Integrity are part of understanding and applying the two Guiding Questions in the Dare to Be Great philosophy:

1.    What’s Important Now?

2.    What’s the right thing to do?

What’s Important Now? Use the two questions as a guide and be your own witness. 

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Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Begin to speak when .......

"I begin to speak only when I'm certain that what I'll say isn't better left unsaid."

Cato

What’s Important Now? Enough said. 

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Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: A Better Question

James Hollis Ph.D. suggests that major personal decisions should be made not by asking, “Will this make me happy?” but “Will this choice enlarge me or diminish me?” 

That is a powerful reframe of what is likely a common question. Making decisions based on what we think will make us happy can be a slippery slope as it can be very short sighted. If in fact it does make you “happy” it is often a fleeting feeling. 

The question, “Will this choice enlarge me or diminish me?” is more of a big picture, long term thinking question and in line with the W.I.N. philosophy. It is more likely to result in choices that will help you to grow and develop in alignment with your core values and guiding principles. 

What’s Important Now? When making major personal decisions be sure to ask a better question. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Starving for Wisdom

“We are drowning in information, while starving for wisdom.”

E. O. Wilson

Information is more readily available and abundant now than at any time in history. You carry a super computer in your pocket. You are continually inundated with information through your e-mail and social media links and 24-hour news channels.

According to some sources until1900, human knowledge doubled approximately every century, by 1950 human knowledge doubled every 25 years, in 2000 human knowledge doubled every year and now, our knowledge is almost doubling every day.

“By three methods we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; second, by imitation, which is easiest; and third by experience, which is the bitterest.”

Confucius

Wisdom is different from information in that it requires us to study, pause, reflect, question, connect, discuss, debate, apply and assess. It requires us to seek to connect the dots between thoughts, ideas and information in order to find meaningful ways to apply the information in different fields. It requires the patience to stick with a problem and not just jump at the first possible answer.  

“The teacher who is indeed wise does not bid you to enter the house of his wisdom but rather leads you to the threshold of your mind.”

Khalil Gibran

The great teachers in your life and throughout history challenge you to think. They ask you questions to guide you to self-discovery, instead of simply giving you the answer. They are humble enough to say, “I don’t know.” And encourage you to continue to seek a deeper understanding. 

“Any fool can know. The point is to understand.” 
Albert Einstein

Wisdom is not about rote memory of facts and data. It is about the examination, exploration and questioning of information and ideas so you can gain an understanding. 

Two of the challenges in seeking wisdom are:

1.    Being humble enough to enable curiosity.

2.    Determining where to spend your time and energy. You need to decide what topics, ideas and information to study and seek understanding and which ones it ok to simply look up on your phone when you need that information. 

Mastering these two challenges itself requires wisdom. 

What’s Important Now? Seek wisdom, not just information. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: The enabler of curiosity.

“Humility is the enabler of curiosity.”

Jay Hennessey

Curiosity is critical to learning, understanding and growth. 

Curiosity requires the humility to ask questions, seek knowledge, seek understanding, seek new connections, and seek new teachers and sources of information. 

Curiosity requires the humility to say, “I don’t know.” or “I don’t understand.”

Curiosity requires the humility to be silent and listen in order to learn from others. 

Curiosity requires the humility to learn from people younger than you, people who may have less formal education than you or who may have less status in your organization that you. 

Curiosity requires the humility for the teacher to learn from the student. 

Curiosity requires the humility to keep a beginners mind and accept there is always more to learn.

Curiosity requires the humility to seek a new room if you feel that you are the smartest person in the room. 

Curiosity requires the humility to follow the advice of John Wooden, “Whatever you do in life, surround yourself with smart people who will argue with you.”

Curiosity requires the humility to surround yourself with unread books to remind yourself how much you still have to learn. 

What’s Important Now? Stay Humble. Stay Curious. 

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Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: 3-2-1. Things to ponder read and listen to.

Three quotes to ponder:

"A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out."

Walter Winchell 

“The greatest obstacle to knowledge is not ignorance; it is the illusion of knowledge.”

Daniel Boorstin

“It ain’t what you don’t know that gets you in trouble. It’s what you know for sure that just ain’t so.”

Mark Twain

Two Book Recommendations:

Why We Get Sick: The Hidden Epidemic at the Root of Most Chronic Disease―and How to Fight It By Benjamin Bikman Ph.D. 

Think Like a Rocket Scientist: Simple Strategies You Can Use to Make Giant Leaps in Work and Life By Ozan Varol

If you are not a big reader you can find interviews with Benjamin Bikman talking about the impact of insulin resistance on our health (he also has an informative Instagram page) online. I enjoyed his interview with Max Lugavere for The Genius Life podcast. There are also interviews online with Ozan Varol talking about the value of thinking like a rocket scientist. I enjoyed his interview with Brett McKay for The Art of Manliness podcast. 

A Scientist Worth Listening to:

I have watched or listened to 14 interviews with Andrew Huberman Ph.D. over the last number of months and spent time on his Instagram page watching a number of the short videos he posts to explain neuroscience. Huberman is a professor in the Department of Neurobiology at the Stanford University School of Medicine. I am interested in gleaning information and strategies from Huberman’s work that I can incorporate into my training programs. I like Huberman’s way of explaining the functions of the brain and the nervous system and his commitment to get the message out to those of us who are not academics. If you do a search for “Andrew Huberman interviews” you will find at least 20 interviews he has done over the past two or three years. I personally got a lot out of the interviews for the Maxout podcast with Ed Mylett, Broken Brain with Dhru Purohit, Spartan Up with Joe De Sena and the Rich Roll podcast. You can likely find an interview done by your favorite podcaster. 

What’s Important Now? There is value in spending time pondering, reading, listening, reflecting, learning and striving to connect the dots between what you are learning and what you learned previously. 

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Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: The normal of now.

I am not a fan of the term “the new normal”, I just struggled with better terminology or a better explanation. Then along comes Seth Godin imparting his wisdom in one of his daily blogs titled A new normal, where he addresses this. In that post he explains:

We’ve got a deep-seated desire for things to go back to normal, the way we were used to.

But this, this moment of ours is now normal.

For now.

And then, there will be another normal.

There is no “the new normal”. Because that’s definitive.

There’s simply the normal of now.

The world is different today than it was 6 months ago. That was also true a year ago, 5 years ago, 50 years ago and 100 years ago. It will also be true a year from now, 5 years from now, etc. 

We live in a world that is constantly changing, surrounded by people who are constantly changing. Some of those people are growing as part of that change and others are just changing as a natural part of the aging process with little or no personal growth. 

So, as always, it comes down to a choice; how you choose to spend your time in the now normal. You can sit around hoping things will go back to the way they were (which they will not), or you can put in the work to make the most of the world, and your piece of the world, in the normal of now, understanding it will continue to change whether you like it or not. 

What’s Important Now? You can do the Work, or you can Whine, both start with the same letter and both are a choice. Which you choose will determine the direction you move in the now normal of tomorrow and beyond. 

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Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: What makes a winner?

"If you ask me how I want to be remembered, it is as a winner. You know what a winner is? A winner is somebody who has given his best effort, who has tried the hardest they possibly can, who has utilized every ounce of energy and strength within them to accomplish something. It doesn't mean that they accomplished it or failed, it means that they've given it their best. That's a winner."

Walter Payton

I was a huge fan of Walter Payton. I loved watching him play for the Chicago Bears (yes I am old enough to have watched him play for the Bears). After reading about him I was even more impressed with his work ethic and attitude about life. I believe that Walter Payton understood being a winner was about the effort and the process, not just the outcome. Walter Payton died of a rare liver disease in 1999 at the age of 45, but he left a tremendous legacy. 

As I have talked and written about on numerous occasions, effort and process are what you need to focus on, as they are what you control. You do not control outcomes. Being willing to do the work and focusing on effort will provide you the best opportunity to achieve your desired outcome. 

“My bench never heard me mention winning. My whole emphasis was for each one of my players to try to learn to execute the fundamentals to the best of their ability. Not to try to be better than somebody else, but to learn from others, and never cease trying to be the best they could be; that's what I emphasized more than anything else.”

John Wooden

John Wooden is a coaching legend for his nearly 30 years coaching the UCLA Bruins. He is in the NCAA Hall of Fame as both a player and a coach. In his final 12 years at UCLA they won 10 National Championships. John Wooden never talked to his players about winning. John Wooden was all about character, effort and process.

“Winning and losing aren't all they're cracked up to be, but the trip to the destination is.”

John Wooden

 Andrew Huberman is a neuroscientist and tenured professor in the Department of Neurobiology at the Stanford University School of Medicine. One of the things Huberman talks about in all the interviews I have listened to is the importance of tying dopamine release to effort. You do this by rewarding yourself for making the effort to get better. He says that Growth Mindset involves deriving dopamine release from the effort and strain of the process, and enjoying the friction. He encourages us to think in terms of process, not events and verbs, not nouns. Think of Growth Mindset as a verb, an action item.

This is not about going through the motions and telling yourself how great you are, or rewarding yourself for just showing up. Learning, growth and neural plasticity all involve friction, effort and struggle. They are not supposed to be easy. If what you are doing is easy then you probably are not learning and growing, you are simply going through the motions. Going through the motions can make you feel like you are making progress because you are doing something, but it is an illusion. 

What makes a winner? A winner is someone who makes the commitment to effort and process in the pursuit of growth, learning, and improvement while embracing the friction and ensuring proper rest and recovery. A winner is someone who does all that in service to a cause greater than themselves. 

Life is full of winners, most of who will never achieve fame or notoriety, but all of who will make a difference in in the lives of others as a role model and mentor. 

What’s Important Now? Focus on effort and process. Embrace the Friction. Reward the Process. Strive to be a winner. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: The Badass is already in there.

David Goggins is known as one of the most “badass” people on the planet because of the incredible physical feats he as accomplished. If you are unfamiliar Goggins then I highly recommend you read his book Can’t Hurt Me. You can also go to his website at www.davidgoggins.com or just do a Google search and watch or listen to one of the many interviews people have done with him. If you are offended by profanity I recommend you set aside your judgments on it for 60 minutes and watch the interview. 

On Saturday I took a break from reading and watching interviews with my favorite Neurobiology Professor, Andrew Huberman, and watched an interview Ed Mylett did with Goggins. I read Goggins’ book a couple of years ago after listening to an interview he did with Michael Gervais. I have since watch 2 or 3 other interviews with Goggins and am always impressed by his mindset and thought process. 

One of the things he talked about in the interview was the concept that even when he was at a low point in his early 20s working as an exterminator and was a self described “fat ass” at 297 pounds; the badass that he is now was always inside of him. It was there his whole life waiting to be tapped in to, developed and unleashed. Despite his propensity for profanity he is a man of faith and he says God or some higher entity did not just come down one day and endow him with this gift. It was always inside of him waiting to be embraced and developed. 

The same is true for each of us. We all have a “Badass” inside of us waiting to be embraced, developed and unleashed. I am not suggesting you have to go out and attempt Goggins like feats, but you need to tap into that ability to embrace the struggle, continue to strive to improve. Goggins says he doesn’t care about winning; it is the effort and process that he embraces and loves. Effort and process are what you control. You do not control outcomes. Learning and growth are going to involve effort and struggle. Embrace the effort. Embrace the struggle. Seek to unleash your inner Badass. 

That inner Badass can help drive and inspire you to be the best version of yourself that you can be. The best parent, nurse, teacher, law enforcement officer, paramedic, firefighter, leader, pastor, entrepreneur, massage therapist, mental health professional or any of the other roles and careers you choose to pursue. Developing that inner Badass means developing your mind, body and spirit. It means accepting there are times you will struggle, fail and screw up.  That is ok. To be a Badass is to be human and accept those are all part of the human experience. The Badass inside of you will understand that What’s Important Now is to ask, “What did I learn from this? How can I grow from this? What’s next?” Your inner Badass is what gets you out of bed in the morning when it is still dark and cold to workout. It is what drives you to learn more, do more and be more. 

P.S. The courageous young woman I wrote about last week certainly understood and embodies this philosophy and while she may not think of herself as a Badass, I do.

What’s Important Now? You have a Badass inside of you. Accept it, embrace it, nurture it, develop it and unleash it. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: A story about attitude and courage.

In last week’s post I shared a quote from John Maxwell about the importance of taking total responsibility for our attitude. 

In previous posts I have shared the following quote from Victor Frankl:

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms - to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way”

Victor E. Frankl

Last month a friend shared in an email that his 36-year-old daughter, a mother of twin one year olds, had a large tumor on the top of her brain and was facing brain surgery in mid July. This would be her 7th brain surgery since the age of 14. I reached out last week to check in on him and see how his daughter was doing approximately 3 weeks after her surgery. 

Here is his response: “She is doing fantastic. Working hard to get all her motor skills back up to par. This surgery impacted her motor movement area and she was extremely weak on the left side for the first couple weeks after surgery. My wife and I have enjoyed taking care of her twin one year old babies. We are looking at some radiation treatments and will learn more about that later this month. All in all everything went great and she continues to fight like no one I have ever known. She is back to work full time as a medical coder from home, taking care of her babies and planning for the future.”

Wow. In a world where it has become popular to play the blame game and assume a victim mentality, it is powerful to hear a story like this. A story of choosing courage, when it would have been easy to give in to the fear. A story of refusing to play the victim role, when it would have been very easy to do so. A story of a courageous young woman choosing to embrace the last of the human freedoms and choosing to fight for what is important in her life. 

These are the stories we need to celebrate and share to help inspire each of us as we face challenges in our own life. 

What’s Important Now? Embrace the last of the human freedoms and choose well. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Make today that day.

"The greatest day in your life and mine is when we take total responsibility for our attitudes. That's the day we truly grow up."

John C. Maxwell

What’s Important Now? Make today the greatest day in your life and encourage those closest to you to do the same. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Be cautious of where we are headed.

The current narrative consuming North America, and perhaps the world, is allegedly about stopping racism and discrimination. I fully support that, however it would appear that certain groups are working to make the narrative regarding racism about only one group. Are Blacks the target of racism? Absolutely, but they are not the only racial or ethnic group who is the target of racism. Are Blacks the subject of discrimination? Absolutely, but they are one of many groups who are discriminated against. 

I am concerned that people who make the statement “all lives matter” are shouted down, attacked in person and online, and called racists. If racism is about the idea that one's own race is superior and has the right to dominate others, or that a particular racial group is inferior to the others, and hatred or intolerance of another race or other races, then it seems hypocritical to shout down someone who supports the notion that all lives matter. It would seem to me that embracing the philosophy that all lives matter is a giant first step in the fight against racism. 

If the call is to end racism and discrimination, and we can accept that discrimination is, “Treatment or consideration based on class or category, such as race or gender, rather than individual merit; partiality or prejudice.” then it would seem that the philosophy that all lives matter is a good first step in eliminating discrimination as well. Discrimination is about more than race. Discrimination is also related to gender, weight, sexuality, disability, religious beliefs, profession and other areas. In fact one of the byproducts of the current narrative is that law enforcement officers are being discriminated against, attacked, disparaged and banned from businesses simply because of their chosen profession and their uniform. 

We are seeing politicians in some locations working to take money from police department budgets, which I am opposed to, and promising to use them for programs to support blacks in their communities. Politicians are elected to represent all their constituents, not just one group. Prioritizing one group to the exclusion of others who are also lacking access to affordable housing, health care and quality education seems to be discriminatory, and possibly even racist. It also begs the question “Why now?” Why did they all of a sudden become interested in helping the under privileged people in their communities who they, the politicians, have long neglected?

We are also seeing a large number of professional athletes once again jumping up and screaming about the injustices to a single race. Are they not also concerned about the other groups living in poverty and subjected to racism and discrimination? If those millionaire professional athletes are truly concerned, and a few are, then what are they doing to utilize their personal wealth and influence to make meaningful and lasting impact in the areas of housing, education, health care and job skills training in disadvantaged communities. What are they doing to address the growing issue of young men in those communities growing up in single parent households? What are they doing to address the gang violence and escalating murder rates plaguing so many low-income communities? A few are doing great work in those communities. Too many are doing a lot of screaming and yelling from the comfort of their posh mansions in their gated communities.  

Let me be very clear. I fully support the philosophy that Black lives matter. I do not in any way however, support the organization Black Lives Matter. 

My concern is that we are going to create even more divides and problems in society if we focus solely on one race in the fight against racism and discrimination. 

What’s Important Now? See people, all people, as people. Continue to work to eliminate racism and discrimination against all people. 

P.S. If you think I am a racist for writing this then take a deep breath and go back and reread the full post a few times. If you still think I am a racist after that, then all I can say is I am sorry you feel that way. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: It’s ok to be picky.

It’s ok to be picky about what you read, what you watch and what you listen to. Your time, attention and energy are all finite resources. Be careful how you use, spend, waste or invest them. 

It does not matter how many people recommend a book, if it is not resonating with you then put it down and read something else. It may not be the right book for you, or the right time for you to read that book. I have books I have put down and then gone back to months later when I was in a different place mentally and I got a lot of value from the book. Others I have put down, never to return to again.

It is ok to reread books as often as you like. You will likely get something new out of the book every time you reread it. 

It is ok (and highly encouraged) to be very selective about where you get your news and what you read or listen to regarding current events. You do not have to read every article someone links to on Facebook or LinkedIn. You do not have to read the newspaper or watch the news every day. If you are going to forward articles to other people make sure you read the full article first. Headlines can be deceiving and people will get frustrated if you send them articles you have not bothered to read yourself. 

It is ok to be selective about what podcasts you listen to. Just because you subscribe to a podcast does not mean you have to listen to every episode. I have a few podcasts where I really like the interview style of the host. I will look at the topic and the guest and determine if I am willing invest the time to listen to that episode. There are some podcasters who have some great guests on, but their style of interviewing guests drives me crazy so rather than get frustrated I will find other options for listening to that guest. It is ok to fast-forward through the first 5 to 8 minutes of many podcasts where they are talking about their sponsors and advocating you go to iTunes and leave a review to boost ratings. It is also ok to listen to the information about the various sponsors as there may be some that resonate with you and of course it is ok to go to iTunes and leave a review if you got great value from that episode. 

You do not have to read every W.I.N. Wednesday post. Some of the topics I write about may not be of interest to you and I get that. 

What’s Important Now? It is ok to be picky about how you invest your time, energy and attention.

Take care.

Brian Willis

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