W.I.N. Wednesday: No one changes unless .........

I often talk about and write about the philosophy, “Focus on what you control and control the controllable.” The below message from Lori Deschene reminded me of that.

No one changes unless they want to.

Not if you beg them.

Not if you shame them.

Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love.

There’s only one thing that makes someone change:

their own realization that they need to do it.

And there is only one time it will happen:

when they decide they’re ready.

Lori Deschene

You will only change when you are ready. You will be ready when you have a strong enough personal ‘why’. Changing to appease others or to get them off your back will not result in lasting change and while you are suffering through that temporary change you will likely resent those who begged or shamed you.

You cannot change others, no matter how badly you want to. You can, however, love and support them unconditionally until they decide they are ready to change and then you can love and support them through their personal journey of change.

What’s Important Now? Remember that no one changes unless they want to, including you.

Take care.

Brian Willis

www.lifesmostpowerfulquestion.com. 

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