W.I.N. Wednesday: You have to figure life out for yourself.

The following is an excerpt from the book The Power of Awareness: And Other Secrets from the World's Foremost Spies, Detectives, and Special Operators on How to Stay Safe and Save Your Life by Dan Schilling and it holds an important message for all of us.

“The one thing I’ve taken away that was central to Siddhartha Gautama’s (the man who came to be known as the Buddha) teachings was, “Don’t take anyone’s word for it. You have to figure life out for yourself.””

It is important that we continually read broadly and deeply, listen actively, and learn from others. It is important that we spend time in reflection to learn from our own thoughts and experiences. It is important to have mentors, coaches and guides in your life who can help you navigate the complexities and chaos in today’s world. You get to decide however, what to read, who to listen to, what you take away from your experiences and the experiences of others. 

Having said all that, it is important to understand that you have to figure life out for yourself. No two humans are exactly alike. No two lives are the same. No one else can tell you how to live your life, although many people will try to do just that. The best any of us can do is share principles, concepts, knowledge, insights, and our experiences. The key then is for you to take that information, put it through your filter and then figure out if, and how to apply it to your life, if that is appropriate. 

“Adapt what is useful, reject what is useless, and add what is specifically your own.”

Bruce Lee

There is no “one way” of eating, working out, meditating, or living. We all need to figure out what works for us, given our lives, and the resources we have. The power of What’s Important Now? is the diverse ways it can be applied to help each of us navigate our own life. 

What’s Important Now? You have to figure life out for yourself. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: The ones who move the world along.

"I long to accomplish a great and noble task; but it is my chief duty and joy to accomplish humble tasks as though they were great and noble. ... The world is moved along, not only by the mighty shoves of its heroes, but also by the aggregate of the tiny pushes of each honest worker."

Helen Keller

The mainstream media and social media seem to always focus on what they perceive to be the accomplishment of “great and noble tasks”. They focus on the athlete or team who wins a Gold Medal or national championship. Billionaires and celebrities going into space. Actors winning an Oscar. The Nobel Prize winners. The entrepreneur who sells his or her start-up for hundreds of millions of dollars. Heroic feats of members of the military Special Operations community. 

What they rarely, if ever, focus on are the tiny, daily pushes of what Helen Keller refers to as the “honest workers” in society. These are the people who show up every day, do great work, provide a valuable service, and accomplish humble tasks as though they were great and noble, often for modest or little pay and no accolades. These are the people who make the world “move along” every day. They are the foundation of every organization and of society. They make up the greatest percentage of the people in every business. They do the jobs that some refer to as menial. They are often referred to as “just a …..”. 

Many of us fall into this category. I know I do and have for the last 50 years. 

Be proud of the tiny pushes you make every day. Be proud of the work you do. Be proud of the contributions you make. Be proud of the reality that you play a part in moving the world along. 

What’s Important Now? Be proud, keep making the tiny pushes and strive to accomplish humble tasks as though they were great and noble. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Something has to change.

If you hate your job, you have three basic choices:

1.    Change your attitude.

2.    Change jobs.

3.    Choose to be miserable. 

The problem with Option #3 is that when you choose to be miserable, and it is a choice, you are also choosing to make everyone else around you miserable. You are impacting your family, your co-workers, your customers, and everyone else you interact with. 

The problem with Option #2 is that it is likely your boss you dislike, not necessarily your job. The research shows that many people leave jobs to get away from bad bosses. The research also shows that there are a large percentage of people in the workforce who go to jobs every day that they hate. They are likely going to work for bad bosses every day. If you are quitting your job because you hate your boss, what are the chances then that you will land a job where you get to work for a great leader? If you do land a job working for great leader what are the chances, they will be there long term or that if you choose to seek promotion that once you get promoted you will get to work for a great leader in that position? It would seem there is a shortage of great leaders at all levels, in many organizations. You could start your own business. Just be careful you do not end up with a bad boss there as well. 

That takes us to Option #1 – Change Your Attitude. Simple. Not easy. This starts with focusing on what you control and controlling the controllable. You do not control your boss. You do control your attitude. Take time to reflect on your job and find meaning and purpose in the work. It does not matter what you do for a living, you can find value and purpose in that work if you choose to. You are serving someone. You are allowing other people to do their job. 

The most important people in a hospital to reduce the spread of infection are likely the cleaning staff. The housekeeping staff at a hotel are critical to the experience people have with that hotel, especially in a world with digital keys where you may have limited interaction with people at the hotel. The people working in a factory that makes the material from which body armor is made are saving the lives of law enforcement and military personnel. The ticket agent at the airport is often the first point of contact for a trip and their attitude in dealing with you can impact your entire trip. 

Choose to take pride in what you do and find value and purpose in what you do. If your boss is an ass, that sucks. Embrace the Suck and choose not to allow them to negatively impact your entire life. Simple. Not easy. 

Accept that you are in a position to lead. Leadership is never about rank, position and title. Those things put you in a formal leadership position, they do not make you a leader. Author and leadership guru John Maxwell says that leadership is Influence. Accept that you are in a position of influence in your organization. 

Follow the Leadership 101 advice below.

Leadership 101

·      Do Your Job

·      Treat People Right

·      Give All Out Effort

·      Have An All In Attitude

If there is a lack of leadership in your organization then consider seeking promotion and change that by becoming the leader you always wanted. 

I am not a fan of the advice, “Find a job you love, and you will never have to work another day in your life.” Too many people spend their entire careers being miserable seeking that illusive “job they love”. Consider changing your attitude and learning to love what you do. You may find that you enjoy what you do, who you do it with and who you do it for. You will also likely put more effort into the work you do, seek opportunities to learn and grow and you may just find that new opportunities open up for you. 

Changing your attitude will also positively impact your health and your relationships. 

What’s Important Now? Life is full of choices. Choose well. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: You can't be both of these at the same time.

“You can’t be envious and happy at the same time. People who pay too much attention to social comparisons find themselves chronically vulnerable, threatened, and insecure.”

“The happier the person, the less attention she pays to how others around her are doing.”

Sonja Lyubomirsky

I was talking to someone recently who I personally respect a great deal, and who is highly respected and accomplished in their field. Based on interactions with others in a group they have recently become a member of, they made the comment, “I am an underachiever.” They are far from an underachiever, but that is a comment I hear a lot and at times have found myself muttering to myself. 

It is too easy to get sucked into the comparison game. We compare our titles, status at work and the number of promotions we have received. We compare formal education, paycheques and social media followers. We compare vacation photos, homes and vehicles. We compare the success of our children. Speakers compare the number of speaking gigs every year, the size of the audiences, testimonials and evaluations. You compare yourself to someone who has done a TEDx talk and people who have done TEDx talks compare themselves to people who have done a TED talk and they all compare views. 

We generally compare things that are surface level. We rarely compare impact as can be hard to measure. Titles, status, numbers of followers, number of views and number of attendees are not reflective of impact. The size of your house or the amount of money you make is not reflective of impact. The size of the audience or the number of “followers” someone has is not reflective of impact. 

We also tend to put too much emphasis on “success” and not enough on “significance”. Success is measured by some arbitrary standard usually based around job title, how much money you make, the size of your house and the type of car you drive. None of those are measures of significance. 

There are many people who live lives of significance and impact who may never be considered “successful “and are certainly not famous. Many of them may find themselves feeling “less than” and thinking they are an “underachiever” when nothing could be further from the truth. 

“You can’t be envious and happy at the same time. People who pay too much attention to social comparisons find themselves chronically vulnerable, threatened, and insecure.”

“The happier the person, the less attention she pays to how others around her are doing.”

Sonja Lyubomirsky

What’s Important Now? Step away from the comparison game and strive to live a life of significance and impact. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: You can pay now, or you can potentially pay a huge price later.

Attention is a limited commodity. 

As humans we will pay attention to what is important to us in the moment. 

Sometimes “what is important” will be determined by the immediate presence of danger or a potential threat. When that happens there will be things in the environment that you are not attending to and become fundamentally blind to. 

Other times you get to choose what you pay attention to. Here too, you will be "blind' to what you are not attending to. 

During the safety briefing on an airplane you can choose to pay attention to the safety briefing or you can pay attention to your phone, your book, the person beside you or something else that will not contribute to your safety and performance during an emergency.

When you are driving you can pay attention to the roadway, to traffic, to the presence of pedestrians and to the potential for danger, or you can pay attention to your phone and possible pay with your life, or cost someone else their life. 

When you are walking down a sidewalk, or through a mall, airport or other public place you can pay attention to where you are going and what is happening around you, or you can pay attention to your phone and be completely unaware of other people and / or potential hazards in your environment.  

When you are in a conversation with another person you can pay attention to them, what they are saying and not saying, their facial expressions and body language, their feelings and emotions or you can pay attention to distractions such as your phone or Apple watch beeping or buzzing, that e-mail on your computer or the television. Understand the impact on the other person, the relationship and the consequences of choosing the distractions over the person.

What’s Important Now? Attention is a limited commodity. Be aware of what you are paying attention to. Train your attention. Invest your attention wisely. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: You can win, or you can learn. Or…..

You have likely heard the phrase, “You can win, or you can learn.” Many times, we also talk about the fact that we will learn more from our failures than our successes. The premise is that when you fail to win you have an opportunity to learn from the experience. I agree with the mindset that when you fail to win, or fail to achieve your goal, you should take the opportunity to conduct an after-action review or debriefing so you can ensure you learn from the experience. 

Lately, however, I have been thinking about this philosophy and have come to realize that there is a gap, a missed learning opportunity. What if you also learned from your wins and successes? What if you did after action reviews or debriefings when you were successful to determine what you learned and what you could do better next time? Those debriefings may reveal that you won because you were lucky, or that you won despite some less desirable decisions that were made along the way. Remember that sometimes poor decisions result in good outcomes and sometimes good decisions result in poor outcomes. 

In order to have an organizational culture of learning you need to make learning an everyday thing, not just a sometimes thing focused only on when you lose or fail. With the right culture you can learn from your wins and successes as well as from your failures and losses. 

What’s Important Now? Win or lose, always be learning. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

www.lifesmostpowerfulquestion.com. Maximizing human potential through Life's Most Powerful Question - What's Important Now?

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Let’s show some love to the Home Team as well.

Thursday of last week was Remembrance Day in Canada and Veterans Day in the US. A day where we pause to remember those who made the ultimate sacrifice as members of our military and to thank all those who have served, and those who continue to serve in the military for their service and their sacrifice. It is appropriate that we take the time to remember and honor those who serve and those we have lost.  

I spend a fair amount of time in airports and it is common for people to approach and thank current and former members of the military for their service. That appreciation is well deserved. Many members of our militaries have spent months and years away from their home and their families on deployments to wars zones and areas of conflict around the world and we need to thank them, and their families, for those sacrifices. It is also common to acknowledge, thank and honor the members of our militaries, past and present, for their contributions and sacrifices for our freedoms: Our freedom of speech and freedom of religion and our ability to live in a free and democratic society. Those are all appropriate. The military is the “Away Team” as they are very rarely deployed within our own borders in North America.

Once those freedoms have been earned through the sacrifices of the men and women of the military, the Away Team, we need men and women who are willing to step into professions of service within our own borders and our communities and ensure we can continue to enjoy those freedoms. That is the role of the men and women of law enforcement. They are the “Home Team”. It is common for members of the military to thank law enforcement for watching over their families and keeping them safe while they are deployed in foreign lands. 

Both professions are made up of men and women who are ordinary human beings, who often perform seemingly superhuman tasks in very challenging situations. People in both professions have a heart of service. People in both professions suffer from the trauma they are exposed to. Mental health and suicide are major concerns in both professions. People in both professions make mistakes, and sometimes those mistakes cost human life. 

If our freedoms depend on both the Away Team and the Home Team why do we then so easily turn on the Home Team?  Is it because the actions of the Away Team do not directly impact you, your family, your friends and your community? Is it because we see news coverage of the battles won in defeating an evil foreign enemy by the Away Team and generally only see news coverage when the Home Team has a seemingly “bad outcome”? We celebrate when we see pictures and videos of members of the Away Team meeting with village elders or community members in some foreign village and playing with children in those conflict riddled countries, yet ignore these daily occurrence between members of the Home Team and the communities they serve. 

We need both the Home Team and the Away Team. We need to keep showing our appreciation for the sacrifice and service of the Away Team and we need to show more love and appreciation for the Home Team, and their families, for the sacrifices they make throughout their careers. If you are a member of the ‘Silent Majority’ who do support, trust and appreciate the men and women of law enforcement please break the silence. When you see law enforcement officers be sure to express your appreciation. It is as simple as walking up and saying, “I appreciate what you do. Thank you for your service. Have a great rest of your shift.” 

What’s Important Now? This is a rough time for the Home Team. Lets show them some love, respect and appreciation. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

www.lifesmostpowerfulquestion.com. Maximizing human potential through Life's Most Powerful Question - What's Important Now?

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W.I.N. Wednesday: What if.....?

“You get ideas when you ask yourself simple questions. The most important of the questions is just, ‘What if...?’”

Neil Gaiman

Too often people’s immediate response to a new idea or suggestion on how something could be improved is to list all the reasons it won’t work. 

What if we asked “What if?” more often?

What if it could work? What would that look like and feel like?

What if we could do it? What would be the benefits to the team and organization? 

What if we could do it? Where would we start? 

What if we could get this approved? What would we need to do to make it happen?

What if I could learn this new skill? Where in my life would I experience the benefits? 

What if I could get that promotion or specialty assignment? What skills would be helpful for me to learn to be most successful in that position? 

What if I could get better? How would that positively impact my life? 

What if you had ownership for this problem? How would you fix it?

What if you focused more on what’s right than what is wrong? How would that change your outlook on your work and on the world? 

What if you decided to punch mediocrity in the mouth and embrace the pursuit of excellence? How would your life improve?

What if you decided to embrace the struggle and the suck? How could that new attitude help you to grow?

What if you decided to look for the learning and look for the good in the challenges and in the suck? How would that help you to grow in every area of your life? 

What’s Important Now? What if you asked “What if?” more often?

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: I have been doing this a long time so you are in good hands.

I recently had a dental appointment for a regular teeth cleaning. I went in on a weekend instead of my usual weekday appointments and the hygienist I had that day was someone I had never met before. She introduced herself and said, “I have been doing this a long time so you are in good hands.” I knew she would be very good at what she did, not because of the comment, but because of the people who own the clinic. Ken and Elma hire talent, not bodies, invest in their talent, and run a high quality, highly professional operation, which they are intimately involved in. 

The comment however, got me to thinking. Just because someone has been doing something a long time does that mean they can automatically be trusted to do high quality work?

For some people those years have been committed to the pursuit of excellence and they are on the path to mastery. They continually invest in developing their mind, body and craft. They strive for excellence in everything they do and are continually learning and growing. You are in “good hands” when you work with them. 

For others, they have been putting in time for some, or all of those years. They may have been keen in the early years but as a result of poor culture and a lack of leadership they may have been beat up, and beat down and are now just going through the motions. The number years they have been in the job are not a reflection of their skill level. When you work with them you may, or may not be in “good hands”. 

In some cases new people have the most up to date training and skills and may perform at a higher level than people who have “been doing this a long time”. They are still keen to do a great job and have not been caught up in the efficiency, thoroughness trade off and started taking shortcuts.

What about you? Where are you at in your journey? If you read the W.I.N. Wednesday posts on a regular basis I am going to assume you are committed to the pursuit of excellence and are striving for mastery in some area(s) of your life. The reality however, is that the pursuit of excellence is not a linear progression. We all go through ups and downs. We all fall into slumps at times and may temporarily lose our drive to excel and give in to the biological urge to settle for the most comfortable option. That is part of the human experience. When that happens have some self-compassion, focus on what you control, control the controllable and get back on track. 

What’s Important Now? At some point we will all be in a position to say “I have been doing this a long time.” Make sure you have spent that time well so people are in good hands. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: A reframe on the failure thing.

I have written before about my concerns with how we too often glorify ‘Failure” when in fact without the right culture, mindset and leadership failure may simply lead to more failure, a diminished sense of confidence and never actually result in positive learning. 

Dan Dworkis is someone I have huge respect for. He is author of the great book The Emergency Mindand host of the Emergency Mind Podcast. In a recent newsletter he recommended a video put out by Farnam Street titled Why It’s Important For You To Practice Failure. While I do not claim to be anywhere near as smart as Dan, or the people at Farnam Street, I have a concern with the message from the video and am going to suggest a reframe. 

The following is the e-mail I sent to Dan Dworkis (although I doubt he will get a chance to read it):

Dan,

 I am a fan of your book and podcast and subscribe to your newsletter. I watched the video you recommended from Farnam Street on practicing failure. I would suggest that “practicing failure” is not what we should be doing. We should be striving (to improve, learn and grow) understanding that in the striving sometimes we will fail. When we do fail it is an opportunity to learn, grow and find a better way to do things. Instead of practicing failure I believe we should be practicing to recover from failure. Recover from failure of equipment and systems or failure caused by human error. Recover from failure to accomplish our goals and objectives. In the video I believe the key to his message is that we need to practice recovering from stalls (failure and mistakes), not to practice stalls. The stall may be the result of human error, equipment failure, weather or other factors. I would suggest we need to reframe the discussion on failure to focus on striving, not failing, and practice recovering from failure instead of practicing failing. 

Thank you for allowing me to share my thoughts. Keep up the important work you are doing on all fronts. 

We do not need to practice making mistakes and practice failing, we do however need to practice recovering from mistakes and failure.  As a pilot if I only practiced making mistakes that resulted in the aircraft stalling, I would only get one opportunity to do that before I crashed. If instead, I simulate conditions that could cause a stall and practice recovering from those stalls then when it happens unexpectedly during a flight I am prepared to deal with it, and recover from it.

Without the right mindset, and the right culture there may be little or no positive learning that results from failure. Practicing mistakes and failure can actually be counterproductive. We do need to prepare for failure and prepare to recover from mistakes and failure. In an interview with Jonathan Fader PhD on the Chasing Excellence podcast Fader (as he likes to be called) addressed his concern with the emphasis on failure. He reframed it as, “We need to have a method to reset after unwanted results.” Fader works with professional athletes and teams in the NFL and MLB and also works with the FDNY. We will all experience unwanted results in life. What many of us fail to do is develop a method to deal with that when it happens, and develop tools to allow us to reset and move forward having learned from the experience. 

A golfer doesn’t need to practice making bad shots. They do need to practice making a recovery shot out of the rough or the sand. A pitcher in baseball does not need to practice throwing balls or pitches that result in a home run. They do need to have a method to recover from those unwanted results. A quarterback in football does not need to practice throwing interceptions. They do need to have a method to recover from those unwanted results. A kicker in football does not need to practice missing a critical field goal. They do need to have a method to recover from those unwanted results. A goaltender does not need to practice giving up a goal at a critical moment in a game. They do need to have a method to recover from those unwanted results. I could go on, but I am sure you get the point. 

As a leader you need to create a culture where you and the people you have the privilege to lead are striving for excellence and are willing to stand up, own up and admit to mistakes and failure in order for the individual, and the team, to learn from those events, make appropriate adjustments and then move forward better off for the experience. If you are a trainer then training should be a safe place for people to fail, recover from it, learn from it and move forward. 

What’s Important Now? Focus on striving. Focus on the pursuit of excellence. Develop skills for recovering from failure, human error, and unwanted results. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Be cautious judging the quality of the decisions by the outcome.

In today’s polarized world I see a lot of people judging the quality of decisions people made simply by the outcome. We all need to be cautious about judging the quality of the decisions by the outcome. Sometimes good decisions lead to bad outcomes and sometimes, bad decisions result in good outcomes. There are a lot of factors that influence outcomes, which are outside the control of the decision maker. 

Looking at decisions through the lens of Hindsight Bias is easy. You know the outcome so if it is a positive outcome you assume the decisions were good and move on. If the outcome is bad you assume the decisions were bad, attack the people who made those decisions and demand that they admit they screwed up. 

In today’s volatile, uncertain, complex, chaotic and ambiguous world very often people have to make decisions with limited information, in tight time windows. They usually make the best decisions they can, with the information they have, knowing it will be second guessed if the outcome if less than ideal. 

Even when people have time to make decisions they are often presented with large volumes of data, and sometimes there is conflicting data. The “experts” often cannot agree on the best course of action and as a result they offer conflicting opinions and advice. At some point someone has to make a decision based on the best information they have at the time and sometimes they have to choose between two less desirable options. 

If you are in a position to do so, conduct After Action Reviews on a regular basis to gain insight into the decision making process that led to the outcome, good or bad. These are not meant to find fault or lay blame, they are meant to create learning opportunities so everyone can grow and improve their decision-making skills. 

If you are not in a position to do this then take a breath, take a step back and assume good intent until you get the facts to determine otherwise. After all, that is what you would want from others. 

What’s Important Now? Be cautious of judging the quality of decisions based solely on the outcome. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: You get to choose. Choose well.

“To make a difference is not a matter of accident, a matter of casual occurrence of the tides. People choose to make a difference.”

Maya Angelou

“You become elite by choice, not by chance.”

Lauren Johnson

“Excellence is never an accident. It is always the result of high intention, sincere effort, and intelligent execution; it represents the wise choice of many alternatives - choice, not chance, determines your destiny.”

Aristotle

“Destiny is not a matter of chance; it is a matter of choice.

It is not a thing to be waited for; it is a thing to be achieved.”

William Jennings Bryan

"Be careful the environment you choose for it will shape you; be careful the friends you choose for you will become like them."

W. Clement Stone


“Attitude is a choice. Happiness is a choice. Optimism is a choice. Kindness is a choice. Giving is a choice. Respect is a choice. Whatever choice you make makes you. Choose wisely.” 
Roy T. Bennett

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms - to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way”

Victor E. Frankl

What’s Important Now? Life if full of choices. Let W.I.N. help guide you and choose well. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Are you making progress?

“Are you making progress?” is a question I heard someone ask the other day. We could ask the progress question, or we could ask process questions such as:

• Are you continually working on improving your mind, body and craft? 

• Are you committed to being a little better tomorrow than you are today?

• Are you focused on small incremental daily improvements?

• Are you committing at least 1% of your day (14 minutes and 27 seconds) to self-improvement? 

• Are you reading for an average of 10 minutes a day?

• Are you focused on effort and process?

• Are you building a Growth Mindset?

• Are you striving to learn, grow and improve?

If you answered yes to any of these questions then you likely answered yes to many of these questions. If you were engaging in the growth process then the answer to the question about progress would be yes. 

What’s Important Now? Stay committed to effort and process. Focus on what you control and Control the Controllable. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Remember Rule #2, Embrace, Look, Dare

Last week I wrote about the importance of controlling the controllable. What can be helpful with that is to remember the following:

Rule #2 – No Whining, No Complaining, No Excuses

Embrace the Pursuit of Excellence in Everything You Do

Embrace the Struggle

Embrace the Suck

Look for the Learning

Look for the Good 

Dare to Be Great

Life is full of ups and down, struggles and successes, challenges, obstacle and opportunities. There are times you will think to yourself, “This sucks.” You live and work in a world of complexity, chaos, uncertainty, ambiguity and volatility.  Life can beat you down or lift you up based on the choices you make and the attitude you take towards it. You can be a problem solver, or just be a complainer and problem identifier. You get to choose your attitude and your response. Choose well.

What’s Important Now? Remember Rule #2, Embrace, Look, Dare and Control the Controllable. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Control the controllable.

If you have been reading this blog for a while you know that both my sons are in the hospitality industry. My oldest son Jesse, and his business partner Jeff, own two boutique wine stores, a restaurant, a cocktail bar, a sandwich shop in a local microbrewery and an online barware and glassware business. My other son Cody owns five restaurants and a burrito bar in a local microbrewery. 

The hospitality industry is a tough industry and has gotten even tougher in the last 18 months of the pandemic. The lessons I continue to learn from both Jesse and Cody are:

1.    Focus on what you control.

2.    Control the controllable.

It is easy to get caught up on things outside of my control. I don’t control COVID. I don’t control the rules and regulations implemented by governing bodies to try and deal with the pandemic where I live or where I am looking to do business. I don’t control the border restrictions or rules for cross border traffic. I don’t control the flight schedule with the airlines. I don’t control reduced services at hotels while traveling for business. I don’t control gym closures or restrictions. 

I do control my attitude and my choices. I control the choices I make regarding my health. I control what I choose to eat and whether or not I choose to workout regardless of gym closures. I control my preparation. I control the choice to travel for business or to stay home. I control whether I read or engage in personal growth activities even day. I control how I treat people who are simply trying to follow, and possibly enforce the rules that someone else put in place. I control how I treat people in the service industry who are doing the best they can, especially given that they are often understaffed. 

When I focus on the things outside of my control I get frustrated and angry. Focusing on what I control and controlling the controllable brings a sense of calm and focus. Controlling the controllable is simple, but not always easy. It is however, in my control. When I lose focus I am fortunate to be able to look to Jesse and Cody for inspiration, as well as for good food and wine.

What’s Important Now? Control the controllable. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Learn this lesson then move on to the next.

"Lessons are repeated until they are learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson.

Learning lessons does not end. There's no part of life that doesn't contain its lessons. If you're alive, that means there are still lessons to be learned."

Cherie Carter-Scott

What lessons are being repeated in your life that you need to learn so you can move on to the next lesson?

What’s Important Now? Keep learning. Keep moving forward. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: I treasure my solitude.

When I saw the following I strongly resonated with the message. I am not sure of the source but I wanted to share it.

I’m not shy. I’m a noticer. I am a thinker. I’m an observer. I’m not stuck up. I’m not anti-social. I treasure my solitude. I’m not a fan of small talk. I prefer a few close friends. I am reserved, until I’m not. I appreciate true connection. If we connect, you matter to me.

Source Unknown

I am a big fan of Susan Cain’s book Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking. It has been on my recommended reading list for a number of years and I share some of my takeaways in my Excellence in Training Course and in the leadership workshops I teach.

As an introvert I treasure my solitude. To me being alone does not mean being lonely. Yes, I teach and speak for a living. That does not mean I am an extrovert. It means that like all introverts I have the ability to be a situational extrovert. Having said that I need my alone time after teaching all day to recover. I do not go out for lunch with the group when I teach and I rarely go out with people after class. At conferences I stay clear of the hospitality room, as that will suck the life out of me. Instead, I may go for dinner with one or two people in order to have a deep conversation and build connection. 

In a world of introverts and extroverts people fall on a spectrum. One is not ‘good’ and the other ‘bad’, they just are. The important thing is to avoid judging and labeling people based on their preference. Seek to understand and appreciate their preference. As a leader, trainer or teacher find appropriate ways to encourage the introverts to contribute and share their thoughts and ideas. If you are an introvert then be ok with implementing strategies to be able to manage your energy. 

What’s Important Now? It’s ok to value solitude. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Popularity or Impact

“Popularity is how many likes you collect. Impact is how many lives you enrich.” 

Adam Grant

Take time to reflect on your life and ask yourself, “Am I seeking popularity, or impact?” 

Be careful that you are not seeking popularity under the guise of impact. These are the people who jump on the bandwagon of the latest hot topic and say all the right things just to try and be popular. That is not impact. 

Impact is not about posting selfies on social media saying, “Heh, look at me. Look at the great thing I just did.” Impact is about doing the work for the right reasons. It is about doing what is right when it is not popular, easy or expedient. Impact focuses on significance, not “success”. 

If you are seeking impact you will not always be popular. Some people will disagree with the work you are doing. Some people will resent the work you are doing. Some people will be jealous because of the impact you are making in the world by enriching others. 

Impact does not have to be on a grand scale. You do not have to try and enrich the lives of missions in order to have impact. Start with enriching the life of one person and work from there. Some of the most impactful people in society are teachers, coaches and first responders who you will never hear of. They will never be rich and famous, but they will have enriched the lives of the people they came in contact with. 

Brian Decker is a retired US Army Special Forces Lt. Colonel and currently the Director of Team Development for the Indianapolis Colts of the NFL. In an interview for the Talent War podcast he was asked what advice he would give his 20-year-old self. As part of his answer he said, “What I would say is I would have learned a little quicker that it’s not about what you can do, but it’s what you can bring out in others.” That’s impact. 

What’s Important Now? Seek impact. Seek to enrich the lives of others. If that results in popularity, so be it. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: The Power of Perspective

“Our perspective is the only thing in life that can significantly influence the outcome without changing the facts.”

Zach Brandon, MLB Mental Performance Coach

Two or more people can look at the same situation, the same facts and have completely different opinions and responses based on their individual perspectives. Those perspectives influence their attitudes, beliefs and behaviours. As a result they can be in the same situation, perceive it differently, respond differently and have different outcomes.

Two people can be facing the same challenging situation, but because of opposing perspectives one will adopt the victim mentality and the other will see the opportunities, take responsibility for their actions and rise about the challenges. 

Differing perspectives often result in debates, arguments, name calling, and confrontation. You do not have to look very far in today’s world to see examples of this. 

Try this exercise. Print off the number 6 in large print on a piece of paper. Place it on the ground at your feet so when you look down you see 6. Now have someone stand facing you and have them look down and tell you what they see. They will say a 9. You can argue with them, tell them they are wrong all day and nothing will change. If you simply move to where they are at in order to understand their perspective you will also see the 9. Your movement in an effort to understand their perspective may inspire them to move to where you were standing to understand your perspective. When they do they will see a 6. The result is likely that both of you will say something to the effect of, “I understand now how you could see it that way. I hadn’t considered that perspective.” It does not mean that either of you were wrong or the other was right. It does mean that you both now have a greater understanding of the other person’s perspective.

It is easy to get locked into our own perspective and fail to consider other perspectives. I fall into this trap on a regular basis. It requires that you be intentional about seeking to understand other people’s perspectives. You don’t have to agree with their perspective; you do need to seek to understand it. If we all did this is it possible there would be less conflict in the workplace and in our lives? 

What’s Important Now? Remember that your perspective is simply one perspective. Seek to understand other perspectives. 

Take care.

Brian Willis

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W.I.N. Wednesday: Are you willing to invest 1% of your day?

I have written before about James Clear’s philosophy of committing to 1% improvement every day.  While 1% improvement can be hard to measure what if you committed to spending just 1% of your day on self-improvement? 1% of your day is 14 minutes and 24 seconds. (You could round it up to 15 minutes for ease of the math and the timer.)

Would you be willing to commit to investing 14 minutes and 24 seconds of your day to improve your mind, body and craft? Would you be willing to put a monthly calendar on the wall and but a large X through every day where you spend at least 14 minutes and 24 seconds in some form of self improvement with the goal to have an X through every day, every month? Would you be willing to invest the time up front to determine a plan on how you are going to be intentional in investing those 14 minutes and 24 seconds? 

It may be best to start with one thing you want to add to your daily rituals such as 14 minutes and 24 seconds of reading a non-fiction book, working on an online course, breath work, body weight exercise, meditation, building mental skills or writing. One thing, every day for 1% of the day equates to a large investment in just one year. Here is the breakdown of committing 14 minutes and 24 seconds every day:

·      864 seconds per day

·      315, 360 seconds per year

·      5256 minutes per year

·      87.6 hours per year

Is 14 minutes and 24 seconds something you could commit to do every day, even on the tough days? Is it possible that if you committed to investing just 1% of every day that you could exceed the 1% daily improvement that James Clear recommends? 

“Compound interest is the eighth wonder of the world. He who understands it, earns it ... he who doesn't ... pays it.”

Albert Einstein

Consider for a moment the compound interest effect from the investment of just 1% of your day to an area of growth and development for your mind, body or craft. That small investment, repeated daily will result in a huge return. Life happens so if you miss a day, simply start over. 

A W.I.N. Wednesday reader recently reminded me of a Calvin Coolidge quote that I believe fits very well here. Thanks Samuel.

“Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan Press On! has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race.” 
Calvin Coolidge

What’s Important Now? Start small. Be intentional. Be consistent. Be persistent.

Take care.

Brian Willis

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